Drewy1888 Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 I met this girl on vacation about 2 weeks ago. We met at the beach and we hung out everyday for a week getting to know eachother. It was obvious that we were both really attracted to one another. We even hooked up a few times. When we got home we texted and talked on the phone everyday. She lives about an hr 1/2 away and she had a busy week so were still waiting to hang out with eachother. I really like this girl and last night I let my emotions get the best of me. All my friends say we act like were in a relationship so I asked her if she wanted to make it official. I feel like this was a huge mistake because we just met 2 weeks ago. She told me that she really likes me but she wants to get to know me a lot more. Turns out she just got out of a relationship a month ago so she is hesitant to get into another one. Ever since I asked I feel like it is awkward to talk to her the same way now. I'm thinking about not texting her today to make her wonder and hopefully switch the tides again. I hope this didn't ruin a really good thing we had going.
Author Drewy1888 Posted August 5, 2010 Author Posted August 5, 2010 Oh yeah. The stupid thing is that I know better than that. Any advice to make it better? I mean it would take a cold hearted bitch to hold that against me if she likes me as much as she said she did. And if she is like that then I don't want that anyway.
Mary3 Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Listen : I would be reluctant too if a guy asked me that fast. You don't know her well enough. Once you have been seeing her awhile you can spring for the relationship speech.... Wow . You slept with her ! Okay your hormones ( yours ) are raging . Something happens to a guy after he has an orgasm with a girl he likes,..... Its like an attachment hormone bonding you to her... You both should have tried to hold off on the sex until you got to know eachother better. Where is your foundation that a relationship requires ?
O'Malley Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Scale completely back on the contact for now. She knows how you feel, and she can initiate if she wants to get to know you better. She can't miss someone that is constantly contacting her. If she contacts you, mention going out to a specific restaurant/event, an actual date --- avoid the frequent texting/hanging out/hooking up that has just muddied the water here. Anything other than a 'yes' to your query means that she wants to explore other options and it's time for you to take your focus off of her.
Mike B. Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Oh yeah. The stupid thing is that I know better than that. Any advice to make it better? I mean it would take a cold hearted bitch to hold that against me if she likes me as much as she said she did. And if she is like that then I don't want that anyway. I try to be positive but I just don't know about the chance of recovery from this. I guess if she really like the sex, assuming that is what you meant by hooking up, she may keep you around for that. Maybe that is a way to keep your foot in the door. If you try backing away, you will probably look hurt and weak but if you keep at it with the same momentum I can see a persistent awkward tension between you two and her eventually breaking away from you completely. Good lord, what were you thinking, man? Sorry, couldn't resist.
Author Drewy1888 Posted August 5, 2010 Author Posted August 5, 2010 LOL. I think you guys took hooking up a little wrong. I meant that I made out with her. That's it. LoL I put that the wrong wa But yeah she seems to be warming back up to how she was before. But taking off the contact is prolly a good idea for a lil bit. Thanks guys.
Mary3 Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 LOL. I think you guys took hooking up a little wrong. I meant that I made out with her. That's it. LoL I put that the wrong wa But yeah she seems to be warming back up to how she was before. But taking off the contact is prolly a good idea for a lil bit. Thanks guys. Sorry . Where I come from * Hooking Up * is hot sex.....
that girl Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 I think what you need to do now is not suffocate her. That is different than trying to get her to chase you. I would pull back a little on how much you contact her. In other words, wait and see if she calls you. But don't let that call go to voicemail unless you legitimately can't pick up and if it goes to voicemail don't play games and wait to call back. And if she calls you three times in a row, you need to reciprocate. And you should still be looking to set up a date in the next few weeks. If it goes more than three weeks, say you don't think she's interested and since you're looking for a romantic relationship not a friendship, you're going to move on.
Author Drewy1888 Posted August 6, 2010 Author Posted August 6, 2010 Well the good news is that I didn't contact her all day and she texted me and called me. We talked like we did before I made the mistake of asking her out so I think I might have dodged a bullet here. I'm still gunna pull back a little bit. Thank you for your replies. It really helped. Any further advice to maybe pull her in a little more?
Mary3 Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Well the good news is that I didn't contact her all day and she texted me and called me. We talked like we did before I made the mistake of asking her out so I think I might have dodged a bullet here. I'm still gunna pull back a little bit. Thank you for your replies. It really helped. Any further advice to maybe pull her in a little more? Sure. Always show her that you like her. No games.
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