Dblock10 Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 (edited) Lets say you like someone (female or male) and they add you to their facebook.. great! so you look on there wall and at some of their recent statuses and you notice that a particular guy/girl is writing on their wall a lot.. or leaving posts like, hey hope you had a good time in **** x , inbox... x , basically personal messages. and that person is "liking" a lot of there photos etc. Then you also notice they have only been friends with this person on facebook for about a month.. so basically you are aware there is another guy/girl interested in your interest and it's clear they are trying to use facebook as a tool to pull someone closer. what do you do? make them aware of your presence on the persons wall (by this i mean just posting stuff to the person you like, liking statuses etc and just "being involved") or do you stay under the radar and play it cool with this interest, since chasing isnt and wont look good nor works. I am tempted to make my appearance known but my gut is saying don't. I guess this is the modern day issue with internet communication tools Edited August 3, 2010 by Dblock10
You'reasian Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Lets say you like someone (female or male) and they add you to their facebook.. great! so you look on there wall and at some of their recent statuses and you notice that a particular guy/girl is writing on their wall a lot.. or leaving posts like, hey hope you had a good time in **** x , inbox***... x and that person is "liking" a lot of there photos etc. Then you also notice they have only been friends with this person on facebook for about a month.. so basically you are aware there is another guy/girl interested in your interest and it's clear they are trying to use facebook as a tool to pull someone closer. what do you do? make them aware of your presence on the persons wall (by this i mean just posting stuff to the person you like, liking statuses etc and just "being involved") or do you stay under the radar and play it cool with this interest, since chasing isnt and wont look good. I am tempted to make my appearance known but my gut is saying don't Its competition. The person you are interested in will obviously make a decision no matter how hard you boud mouth the competitor or build up your object of affection. Wanna make a difference? Get their phone number if you don't have it and speak over the phone. If they don't warm up to the idea, they're probably not that interested. People use the word stalking too easily. An example of real stalking is like the woman who broke into David Letterman's house, took a shower and claimed she was married to him......
Author Dblock10 Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 (edited) thank you, I did think this sort of. Just needed reassurance. Well me and this particular interest have exchanged numbers and been on a date already. So I am hoping a second will follow.. although txts have dropped so maybe they are not particularly interested now, or keeping their options open so to speak. I am assuming if the second date occurs, this would indicate more strongly that there is a real interest. yes you are right stalking maybe not the most appropriate word to use in the title but it sounds interesting and draws interest to my topic Edited August 3, 2010 by Dblock10
mixwell Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 The best thing to do when meeting someone online is to get the conversation offline ASAP !! Hit up this person you like, chat a little and ask for their number and just make up an excuse that you aren't on the computer to often and are busy and it would be more of a convenience. IF he/she is interested they will give you their number, if they're not interested they will most likely make up an excuse on why they can't give you their number (IE I don't know you, we've only been talking x time) That's just me personally and I would think that you look more like stalker browsing all over the page and acting envious etc..
meerkat stew Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 The best thing to do when meeting someone online is to get the conversation offline ASAP !! agreed. Facebook is the path to insanity if you try to use it as some predictive tool deciphering what is really going on in someone's life and who they are or are not involved with. Use it for fun and to keep up with what's going on with your friends and family, not as a dating tool.
Author Dblock10 Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 (edited) The best thing to do when meeting someone online is to get the conversation offline ASAP !! Hit up this person you like, chat a little and ask for their number and just make up an excuse that you aren't on the computer to often and are busy and it would be more of a convenience. IF he/she is interested they will give you their number, if they're not interested they will most likely make up an excuse on why they can't give you their number (IE I don't know you, we've only been talking x time) That's just me personally and I would think that you look more like stalker browsing all over the page and acting envious etc.. true, good advice. How about flipping the idea about trying to be more involved on that persons page in order to get more attention from them, and that you are doing it more so to wind up the person who is posting a lot of messages on their wall.. just so they know they have competition also..? meerkat stew, you are so right! path to insanity ! life is to short, i cant really be bothered to play games like that Edited August 4, 2010 by Dblock10
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