RedCherries Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months, but "seeing" is an overstatement. I literally have only hung out with him 3x and it's both our faults bc A) he usually only asks me to hang out once a week and it's always last minute, as if prior plans fell through and I'm on the backburner AND B) I used to only agree to seeing him when I was really bored, but now I'm starting to like this guy and want to see him more. I think he feels uncertain about me bc he never contacts me any other way than through aim. He won't text. He doesn't call bc I said I hate the phone so that's my fault. But when I do text him, he only responds 50% of the time although I know he has his phone on him all the time. When I playfully asked him why he didn't respond to some, he said he "didn't get some of them." Yeah, right. To his credit, I'll usually text him when I'm out drunk so maybe he thinks that I'M the one keeping him on the backburner. I've spent the night at his place once and as I was leaving, embarrassingly enough I couldn't find my bra. He told me to just leave it and I'd get it next time. That sort of said to me that he's not seeing anyone else and that he doesn't mind my leaving things around (maybe I'm wrong). I found it anyways and the next time we hung out, we spent all day together from around 10am till midnight. He asked me to stay overnight again and I refused nicely (not bc I didn't want to but I wanted to get home!) He then told me that he wanted to take things slow and see where it went but I'm still unsure of how he feels about me. Any thoughts?
xpaperxcutx Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Three dates in 2 months, and you're sleeping with him... Hmmm, is it really that hard to figure it out? He's not making any attempts to " date" in fact, half of the time, you're already showing him that a little contact guarantees him a romp in the bed. Really now, it's not even about playing hard to get at this point. You're the girl he sleeps with but not the girl he wants to pursue.
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Author RedCherries Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 Fair enough. I've noticed that a lot of people on here judge based on how quickly people have sex with others. Why is that? In general, not in this post.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Fair enough. I've noticed that a lot of people on here judge based on how quickly people have sex with others. Why is that? In general, not in this post. Sorry if I came across as condescending but I can assure you it's not a morality reason. I'm all for open sex, but half of the time, people coming on here looking for an LTR should be wary that having sex too early can either make or break a date. Based on what I've learned about the other half our species, as much as men like to have sex, they also like to categorize women into two main cateogories: the ones they want to f---k and the ones they actually want to "date". Fact: Men like a challenge. As much a pain as getting you out of your clothes they much prefer to rip your clothes off of you as opposed to you willingly strip naked in front of them. Besides, his behaviour started off really lukewarm if all he does to get in contact with you is through IMs ( how impersonal is that). And if you already feel like a backup plan, then you probably is a back up plan. Sometimes a woman's intuitions says alot.
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