Single Dad nervous about dating

[movingon2]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]So I need a woman’s opinions on this one. I am not ready to date yet but when the time comes how is this going to go over?[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I am still in the process of getting a divorce. There is no chance of reconciliation ever I am sure of that. You can find my whole story on another page. I have 2 children boy 7, girl 3 and they live with me pretty much full time. They are with their mom about every 2 weeks on the weekend and I don’t see that changing. I only dated 2 women before I met my STBX and we were together 13 years. I’m scared to death just to date let alone having 2 kids is going to scare them away I think. I would say I’m a pretty good looking guy. Recently lost a lot of weight and my brothers and sister in-laws don’t think I’ll have much trouble.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]My point is how do women feel about dating dads and when is the right time to tell them I’m divorce and have 2 kids?[/sIZE][/FONT]

[bobdole]

Your best chances are with 1) women with children and second best chances with 2) women with no children, but divorced/separated themselves. I've noticed recently that most people that have never been married and have no children tend to stick with the same in who they date. So with that in mind you probably won't have any more trouble than any other guy in your position if you go for 1 & 2. You just need experience.

 

I'm recently myself getting back in to dating after 2x 3year relationships and honestly never having to really "date". So 3 weeks into and its gotten much easier but I've always been sociable.

[curlygirl40]

Hi there. Well as far as the timing of letting someone know you're a single dad, I would say immediately. It's definitely not something you want to hide and spring on someone later. And like the previous poster chances are that many of the women you're going to meet and date will be single moms also.

 

You may not realize it now but the fact that you have your kids so much (which is great, I'm just saying) is going to leave you little time to date. So you're probably going to be taking it slow no matter who you date.

 

I am a 40 year old almost single mom and my kids are teenagers, which means I can leave them alone for periods of time while I go out, and I still have a hard time finding time to date. Couple that with the fact that the guys I am dating are mostly single dads. Between work, the kids and the social calendar it's challenging.

 

Now as far as dating goes, my only advice is to take it slow. Get to know yourself again and what you want. Usually when you're first getting divorced the only thing you know for sure is what you don't want!

 

But definitely let women know right away that you are a single dad. Those kids are your first priority and they will take up a lot of your time. A potential date needs to know those things upfront, I think anyway.

 

Good luck to you!

[movingon2]

That's kind of what I was thinking I guess.

thanks