robdrm32 Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 So i've tried the online dating, sent plenty of emails, a couple responded once, with saying "i'd love to chat" or asking questions about me but i never hear again. Couple respond a few times, only to just trail off. It got me thinking, maybe i'm just awkward? I don't ask too personal questions, or talk all about myself. I just ask about them, talk a little about myself try to focus on them. What I perceive to be normal get to know you talk. Like today I was texting a girl, she seemed interested, she texted me after like 20 mins before I could respond to her first text one time. So eventually I said i'll text you later, get home say hey, she texts back within a couple mins, so i jokingly text "So you're a Redsox fan? how did that happen?" And haven't heard back. It just got me to thinking of maybe i'm just awkward, but really just with people i'm not familiar with. Like when i'm with my family, or when i had a g/f and friends i'm just very chilled out, funny, everyone loves me. I feel like once I get through that "shell" anyone would like me, but I have a hard time getting through that with people sometimes, and i notice that if i take a few shots (rarely ever drink) before a social situation there is no shell. Outside of work or family I have a hard time being comfortable around people. Really just a rant but I don't know if its just me or what anymore.
alphamale Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 , so i jokingly text "So you're a Redsox fan? how did that happen?" And haven't heard back. most chicks aren't into sports
kalikula Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 It's hard to have a texting conversation unless it's figuring out plans or just flirting. Try fb or okcupid chat or calling her.
lso802 Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Online dating is tough for guys. Girls get hit on A LOT. Don't take it personally. I used to be very shy in HS and somewhat as an undergrad. Now I'm more outspoken after working at the mall and having to take care of my family after my dad left, but I kind of wish I was the shy kid in HS again. Sometimes it's nice being alone and sometimes it's nice having people notice you. Guess it's all about that balance. Just sayin' being outspoken isn't all that you think it will be once you get over your "shell." There are some things to appreciate as you are right now that you may never get to experience again once you're out of your shell.
Author robdrm32 Posted August 2, 2010 Author Posted August 2, 2010 most chicks aren't into sports well she made it obvious on her profile that she is a big fan, her username reflected that as well so it's not something I just pulled out of the air. I left that out. I figured it was a good way to talk about one of her interests other than "what do you do for fun". Even so, that would be a reason to not respond? Kali- i agree thats why i hate texting, but she put her # on her profile "for texting" so I don't think I could just call it as a first time thing.
Recommended Posts