monkeywithagun Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 I've been with my current boyfriend for about 3 years now. Since day 1, we both came to the conclusion that we were planning on taking each other extremely serious. We moved in together our first week together. I would go stay at my mother's about once a month but was with him most of the time. At the time we had plenty of time to be together, we worked together and lived together and we 100% enjoyed each others company all the time. Things were absolutely perfect for the first year and a half but after that they slowly started to crumble. I've always felt he was extemely out of my league. I consider myself very good looking.. but he is exactly what most girls wish they had... not only is he extremely good looking he has great genes, he is one of the most intelligent people I have ever met, he can be extremely sweet when he wants to be. I started getting jealous. I would check his cell phone and if I saw a message from a girl that read " I miss you" or anything remotely flirty I would go crazy, flip out , start crying , make a scene even if I didnt know details about who it was or why. I tried stopping myself but it was almost like a drug addiction. This obviously got old really fast. I felt his attitude towards me shifting, he didnt enjoy my company as much and I could tell. Then other problems started to surface. We both work full time..he is in law school which takes up his weekends and any other time I have to hang out. I see him in the mornings for about 2 minutes and at night for maybe thirty minutes before bed. If I ask him to make some more time for me .. he says he will and never gets around to it. The sex is rare. I try to initiate but he doesn't want to do it. He always has some excuse like he is tired or he has other things in mind. Needles to say we spend almost everyday arguing through text message.. I tell him I want to fix our lifeless relationship he tells me he does too and when nothing changes I bitch about it all day long, I cry .. I try every trick in my book to get his attention and it only creates even more tension between us. I offered him a break and he says is that is what I want to do then okay but he would rather not. I'm extremely confused, stressed, sad.. I don't feel sexy anymore.. I don't feel in control at all. I 100% love him to death and do not want to break up but I do not know what else to do. If anyone can help please do.
brainygirl Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Break up. You can't love someone you are that jealous of. The situation isn't getting better and wont without some serious intervention by a therapist and both of you wanting to work on it. Leave now while you aren't pregnant. You will both be better off in the long run.
TaurusTerp Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Break up. You can't love someone you are that jealous of. The situation isn't getting better and wont without some serious intervention by a therapist and both of you wanting to work on it. Leave now while you aren't pregnant. You will both be better off in the long run. +1 Dont stay in a clearly unhealthy relationship.
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