sarah1268 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Last weekend me and my bf of just over a year were getting blind and having a mad chat. Earlier that night his best mate told me under top secret that he and his gf (of just over 3 months) are engaged and he hadnt told anyone except me. Obviously, that night I told my bf, and he was like OMG what an idiot ( all the boys dislike this girl heaps) and there so young! I agreed Then he was like, I never saw myself being one to marry young, but you have already got me thinking..... I just cant imagine him saying that....then he was like, I know we are young but I want to spend the rest of my life with you.....and if that wasnt full on enough hes like and how many kids can we have? And we were discussing baby names. I Know. Most girls would be thrilled that their partner is so keen to plan the rest of their lives together. It scared the hell outta me. Trying to bring him to reality I said, but as if I could be your last, like the last girl you sleep with? and hes like I would be happy with that. I dont think I would be. Its like, why didnt I meet this dude 10 years later? Hes perfect in EVERY way. Im just scared Im going to get so serious with this guy ( who is my best friend) that I will miss out on being young and carefree like some of my friends Ohhhh I dunno....what are your opinions? Am I just being an ungrateful bitch haha. and what are the odds of us actually being together forever, Im 19 and hes 20.
TaraMaiden Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 First of all, if someone tells you a secret, then keep it. I don't care that you told your BF, it was still a secret, and you show some immaturity blabbing it off so soon. Secondly, take it as the drink talking. The majority (though certainly by no means, all) of people think of their lives as panning out that way...marriage, kids, family, home, people-carrier, holidays on the beach...it's the perfect Brady Bunch scenario. It's cosy, and a topic on the minds of many young. But with you, it may not be with each other. Lifetime? At 19 and 20? Chances? 2. Slim, and none. But hey, I could be wrong. (Statistically though, I don't think I am.)
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 What in particular do you think you would be missing out on? Do you want to know what being single is like... ? If you don't want to rush into anything I 100% agree. However don't look down on a good thing just because you think the grass may be greener.
cookie2 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 But it's better to wonder if the grass is greener now, than after 10 years of marriage and 3 kids.... If you don't want to be tied down then don't be. Women are allowed to not want commitment just as much as men are And yeah TM is right... keep secrets. If anyone tries to get me to reveal someone else's secret, I tell them, "if I told you then you'd never be able to trust me with your secrets". I think that's from a movie but I can't remember which LOL.
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