dsaasd Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 So, I recently had a one night stand with a guy I met while out clubbing with my friends, we danced/made out for about 2 hours at which point he asked me for my number. I later invited him back to my place. The sex was great, and he had a really charming/sweet personality, he had to work the next day so left around 7, about an hour later I received a text message thanking me for the night and asking if I wanted to go out for dinner or a drink sometime. Now my question? Is this guy into me in a romantic sense or is he just looking for a friends with benefits. Thanks for your opinion
Serenitynow Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 How is anyone supposed to give you a logical answer to that ? Are we supposed to read his mind for you ? .
zengirl Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 So, I recently had a one night stand with a guy I met while out clubbing with my friends, we danced/made out for about 2 hours at which point he asked me for my number. I later invited him back to my place. The sex was great, and he had a really charming/sweet personality, he had to work the next day so left around 7, about an hour later I received a text message thanking me for the night and asking if I wanted to go out for dinner or a drink sometime. Now my question? Is this guy into me in a romantic sense or is he just looking for a friends with benefits. Thanks for your opinion Since you slept with him right away, the only way is to get to know him. I don't think anyone could blame the guy if he's just looking for something casual (You met at a bar, you had sex right away) as he has no way of knowing what you want. And I don't even know what you want from this post! Why analyze it now? If you're spontaneous enough to have sex with a guy you don't know, why do you have to know his intentions before going to dinner? I am confused by that.
sugarmomma Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Why analyze it now? If you're spontaneous enough to have sex with a guy you don't know, why do you have to know his intentions before going to dinner? I am confused by that. Yea, what Zengirl said. I'm confused as well. Lol.
Serenitynow Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Because most women usually want to know where they stand in a situation BEFORE it happens. She probably wants to know how to "act" or "play" the situation if they meet up again. She wants to know HIS intentions before revealing hers. .
kalikula Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 I would think because he asked you out to dinner then possibly he is interested in dating you (Not a booty call). But you don't really know yet... Go out to dinner and see!
TaraMaiden Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Because most women usually want to know where they stand in a situation BEFORE it happens. She probably wants to know how to "act" or "play" the situation if they meet up again. She wants to know HIS intentions before revealing hers.. I mean, as if anybody can predict anything close to what will happen. I'm sorry, that really is a bit of a no-brainer. There's only one way to find out, isn't there?
Author dsaasd Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 Serenitynow- I was looking for your opinion... not a logical/scientific answer. Anyways To be honest all I was expecting was the one night stand and nothing else, no contact, so when I received the message I was pretty surprised/shocked. Its not so much that I NEED to know what his intentions are (I'm not even sure what my intentions are or if I'm interested in the guy as I barely know him) Its just that the text went against all my and my friends experience that I became rather curious. In the end we are getting coffee and going for a walk in the park...we'll see how it goes.
GordonDarkfoot Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 Serenitynow- I was looking for your opinion... not a logical/scientific answer. Anyways To be honest all I was expecting was the one night stand and nothing else, no contact, so when I received the message I was pretty surprised/shocked. Its not so much that I NEED to know what his intentions are (I'm not even sure what my intentions are or if I'm interested in the guy as I barely know him) Its just that the text went against all my and my friends experience that I became rather curious. In the end we are getting coffee and going for a walk in the park...we'll see how it goes. Find new friends.
Author dsaasd Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 wow...not sure why this post made everyone so hostile/judgemental...just looking for some friendly advice.
Sophia8 Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Go to dinner and see how things go, you might be surprised.
USMCHokie Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 wow...not sure why this post made everyone so hostile/judgemental...just looking for some friendly advice. Sometimes the truth hurts. If you want "friendly" advice, then ask your friends because they are more apt to tell you what you want to hear. We tend not to shower you with sweet sweet nothings to make you feel better. We tell it like it is. That being said, I have to agree with GordonLightfoot.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Serenitynow- I was looking for your opinion... not a logical/scientific answer. Anyways To be honest all I was expecting was the one night stand and nothing else, no contact, so when I received the message I was pretty surprised/shocked. Its not so much that I NEED to know what his intentions are (I'm not even sure what my intentions are or if I'm interested in the guy as I barely know him) Its just that the text went against all my and my friends experience that I became rather curious. In the end we are getting coffee and going for a walk in the park...we'll see how it goes. That's a reasonable start. Perhaps you just met someone good for you. Now you get to find out how you are together out of bed.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I find that the less you think about their intentions the better. Just watch for his actions.
marmaliade Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Is this guy into me in a romantic sense or is he just looking for a friends with benefits. Thanks for your opinion Dinner means he wants to know you, to know if you are more than good in bed If it goes good and you click he then might consider something serious
bac Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 (edited) Most probable that he wants you as a FWBs. Some FWBs do dinners, some don't do anything except having sex. Guys are not clear on rules of FWBs, so, he might think that the dinner approach is good to start FWBs. Also, he might be looking for a serious relationship and, perhaps, he is fine to start a serious relationship with a ONS. But, it is less probability. Also, he might be looking for a short-term FWBs such as 2-3-4 intercourses. It depends on his situation. Edited August 1, 2010 by bac
jamesum Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 A lot of one night stands turn into relationships and even marriages. But you must not have any expectations. Just go with the flow.
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