Raderick Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 A few questions: 1. If you are interested in someone, how soon do you ask if they have a Facebook or Twitter profile and if you could friend them? 2. How much do you take into account info that you could find out by looking at their profile? For example, party pictures, lots of women (if it's a man) or women (if it's a man) in pictures or flirting in stati, etc.. 3. Have you rejected someone or decided to not date someone based on something posted on their profiles? If so, what was it?
SilentVoice Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 (edited) 1) I don't use Myspace or twitter but I only add friends and family on facebook... no one I am dating . Only after we become a couple "may" I add them. 2)If it is some one online. Yes I do do my research , but this was only once and I didnt find anything that changed my mind 3) No valid answer Edited July 29, 2010 by SilentVoice
D-Lish Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 I keep my facebook conservative, I have employees as friends, and I cringe when a potential partner wants to add me as a friend. I don't post the majority of pics, and I ask friends not to tag me in their pics.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 From the amount of negative threads on here about Facebook and Myspace I would say its never a good idea seriously its crazy look thu LS they bring people more pain then good it seams..
zengirl Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 A few questions: 1. If you are interested in someone, how soon do you ask if they have a Facebook or Twitter profile and if you could friend them? I think the nicest way is by giving them yours. "Hey, I'm ___________ on FB. Friend me if you want." But I say this from someone who won't friend people I've just met, though. For me, FB is a fairly inner-circle only kind of thing. (I don't Tweet. I do blog, and I'm more inclined to tell folks about that, because I control ALL the content. The thing about FB is, for my career, it's really important I weed out anyone who will say anything inappropriate -- even about themselves -- or post any inappropriate pics, etc, because ANYTHING can be misconstrued when you're a teacher.) At any rate, it makes me uncomfortable for a variety of reasons when a guy wants my FB early on. I feel way "checked up on" if he insists upon it (and thus stop talking to the guy). I wouldn't mind if he, naturally, gave me his, because that's not demanding or even asking, it's offering. . . some people just communicate casually in that way, but others don't. 2. How much do you take into account info that you could find out by looking at their profile? For example, party pictures, lots of women (if it's a man) or women (if it's a man) in pictures or flirting in stati, etc.. In this way, I'm a total hypocrite, because if I can find a guy via his email/name, I totally google him. Unless something's a major red flag, I don't take things into too much consideration. I like journals/blogs the best, because I like to read what folks write. I mostly judge a guy by his books, music, and what I can tell from his diction, though, so I think I'm weird (it works for me, though). Female friends don't bother me. A lot of flirting on his wall, would. Party pictures don't bother me, unless they're extreme. Drugs in a picture would bother me, but so would drugs in person. (I'm not a personal fan. Not really against them on principle, as I think everybody should do with their own bodies what they want, but they are illegal, and it's the teacher thing again.) 3. Have you rejected someone or decided to not date someone based on something posted on their profiles? If so, what was it? Yes, back when I gave my FB out more freely because I was settling into Asia (and I don't have to worry about the same career stuff here, like pretending to be Judeo-Christian or at least leaving the illusion I could be online), there were a few guys who asked me out who I discarded based on their profiles. Excessive drinking, constant partying, drug paraphernalia (aren't any to use here), and lots of female Korean friends* who they didn't seem to be really friends with were the big red flags. (Females they seem to actually speak to and be friends with wouldn't bother me, but if he just made 50 Korean girls his friend in the past 2 days, he was just trolling FB for pretty Korean girls; they aren't really his friends.)
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 That yes and the fact people think Mark Zuckerman is some sort of prodigy child for making millions off a site that is just a tool to put up adverts and have people click on them for his profit. Ohhhh farmtown!!!! just to keep people coming back to his boring site and making him dollars. I'll be so happy when all these "bubble-gum" sites fade away... I mean call the person or use email I/M..don't use FreakBook to judge a person..... "OMG he only has 74 friends....he must be a loser or something":rolleyes: Agreed ive seen people with over 600 friends you mean to tell me they keep up with even half of them? I think not. Most must be fake or spam or something I dunno haven't decided yet. I absolutely can't stand those games its like some one takes rancid cow dung and rubs it all over there cyber wall.. I have a friend that plays like a thousand of them and every time I try to read her wall I have to scroll thu millions upon millions of updates! Telling me such important information like how she found a poor blind homeless leper bull frog crying in her imagery bakery or something. OHHHH like I care I just wanna say hi and see how its going for Christ sake not play in makebelive land...
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