ngo_ng Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Hi guys, so it's been a week since my Ex left me for another guy, she is happy. I went throught the whole anger, acceptance, grieving, mourning, process. I have gotten back contact with my old friends and went out with them so the days go by faster. It is really fun to see them, they are all supportive of me and tell me that I wasn't a very good boyfriend for my Ex but that she does not deserve me and that she acted really immaturely after all the change I have done for her. Now I have met some new people as well by going out and volunteering and such. Some people have caught my eye however I am not sure I am ready to start dating again. I want to make it clear that I do not want to date someone to get my Ex jealous, that's not the point. I am still in the process of forgetting her and moving on. I just feel that some light dating could cheer me up and give me hope on for women. Also, I am afraid I will make the same mistake when first dating my Ex. I am afraid that I haven't moved on completely and start a relationship that I do not want and hurt the other girl. I am afraid as well to getting attached too soon without having healed and worked on myself and my relationship issues. Starting something new is great but I don't want it to be another time bomb waiting to happen. It hurts way too much already. What do you think? Should I engage in some light dating, flirting whatsoever or just lay off for a couple of months? As a guy, I know flirting and dating will help me regain my composure, ego and self-esteem, but I am afraid of what I described above. Thank you, NG
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 What do you think? Should I engage in some light dating, flirting whatsoever or just lay off for a couple of months? As a guy, I know flirting and dating will help me regain my composure, ego and self-esteem, but I am afraid of what I described above. Thank you, NG Just stop thinking so hard and go for it! You need to get your confidence back and that will take some time. Unless your still in love with the Ex... no need to wait.
Author ngo_ng Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 Just stop thinking so hard and go for it! You need to get your confidence back and that will take some time. Unless your still in love with the Ex... no need to wait. actually, I am still in love with her despite all the things that I have went through... I try not to and emotions are something that I have troubles controlling. I think I reflect on this because I used to be somewhat of a jerk and a so called "player" and she hated that. I have changed since then, because of her. I'm not saying that I refrain myself from dating for her, because I believe that with the lack of respect she has shown me, I don't have to show any in return. However, I think it's for my own sanity. I don't want to make the same mistakes I have done in the past. Summary: Should I wait until I get over her before dating again? or Should I date, in order to keep my mind off her, as a means to heal?
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