What should/can I do?

[Arypm]

Let me start off me and this girl are both 16.

So most of you would be able to tell me what you think about this since most are older and experienced.

 

rundown: Met this girl beginning of summer, we went on like 6 dates, wonderland/movies/her house for dinner and barbecue, I also ended sleeping over at her house on the day of barbecue because it was late and her dad suggested it.

 

what we have done: made out, held hands when we were together hugs, she cuddles up on me during bus ride home and while we were watching movie at her house.. I also felt her breasts and she felt my man part while she was lying on me watching the movie.

 

she basically stopped talking to me and lost interest after the barbecue (last date) let me add in that we did this and we weren't "officially dating"

so, I asked her over facebook whats happening but ill just post the entire thing on here.

 

Me: Do you want to go to the movies with me this week?

& if you aren't doing anything on Saturday , it's my brothers daughters birthday so hopefully you can come!?

message me back on fb cause I need to go buy more credit for cell tomorrow !

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Her: i have to work on saturday so i dont think i can sorry and i dont know about the movies, i have something pretty much every day of the week, ill let you know

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me: alrighttt!

do you still like me cause i'm pretty sure I screwed things up i dunnooo :\

just a simple yes or no would do

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her: you didnt screw anything up, i am just unsure atm whether or not a relationship is what i want...sorry i have been rude that last couple of days,iv just been thinking.

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me: oh it's alright we all go through times like that and need some time to ourselves.. You don't have to make that decision right now, when we were together it looked like you were happy, and yeah we've done a few things with each other but it's still early we have the summer to get to know each other better before you make that choice!

 

we can take it slow and steady but just thinking back to when we were at your house/movies it looked like we were both having a good time. & I don't want to rush things but it's up to you where we go from here, did I make you happy when you were with me ? that's really all that matters.. if you are happy or not

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her: yeah you did we had fun, its just not what i want right now i promiss you didnt do anything wrong!

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me: so what happens now?

we weren't in a relationship before sooo are we not doing anything with each other anymore?

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her:im not to sure..i guess we will just have to see what happens..im sorry

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me: I really don't know what to say :\

are we done permanently or is this something that can be changed over time, I'd like for us to get together and talk about it in person.

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her: uhm it could change i mean you never know.. i guess i just need time to think.

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me: is it just the idea of a relationship or do you no longer have feeling for me? You might be thinking about it too much and I think you should make your decision when you are with me somewhere, cause it's different just thinking about it opposed to actually being with the person. if you don't have feelings for me then I can understand but I wouldn't believe it because everything went/is right between us and it suddenly 'stopped' a day after the barbecue

give me a chance to prove to you that I wont be a mistake?

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her: its just not the right time, and i dont want to be leading you on when im not sure what i want, thats why i am telling you this,

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me: This is making me go insane inside.

there's really nothing else I can say to you that can change your mind right now. All I can say is I still have feelings for you and this was really unexpected.. I know everyone has doubts and everyone needs time to think about things, this wasn't really fair if you think about it in my shoes and doing this over facebook is an easy way out but that doesn't matter. I just want you to be happy and I thought I was that person that could make you happy.

 

I'm not sure if you made your final decision yet but just think about this, everyone thinks differently and some days might just be one of those days that make people think a certain way. I am willing to wait for you if you need a few weeks off or until you make your final decision. & it may sound like i'm saying be with me, im just saying it's still early to make your final choice.

 

You are beautiful. If you change your mind anytime soon i'll be here.

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her: the only reason i am doing it over face book is cause you ask and i dont wanna sit here and keep you wondering, im sorry for doing it over face book, i never wanted to hurt you im just not wanting aanything right now..im really sorry

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me: So would it be pointless if I still try and talk to you these next few weeks and start over, hopefully you change your mind in the future or do you not see anything happening between us ever again.

 

me: I feel like an idiot after reading all these messages...

I've come to a conclusion and I've kinda been avoiding it because I didn't want to accept the fact that this isn't going to work out right now.

 

This just all happened at a wrong time and if you aren't ready for this right now I understand, all I ask for is another chance in the future and see where it goes from there if you still have any feelings for me !

 

So we can officially put this on pause and see what happens in the future. As long as there is some chance, I'll be alright.

 

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Well there it is, It is long and for those who made it this far I congratulate you.

 

everything was perfect between us and this just happened out of nowhere, let me add that I sent her an email telling her the feelings I had for her a few days before this so that might have caused this and also, one of her dogs died almost when we met and her other dog she just found out needs a serious hip surgery and the doctor said it's the worst case she's seen and she might lose the dog.

 

This might have something to do with it but I don't know, I guess what im asking is what you veterans of love think of this and if I should just give up? I plan on trying again in about a month.. I also had this necklace I was going to give her ( she didn't know what it was all I said was I have something to give you) and I was also thinking about texting her saying "even though what happened, happened. I still have something I was going to give you and i'd like to give it to you still "

 

what do you guys think about all of this?

also I might add in the email I sent her into this thread if people ask for it

[mr_atticus]

My advice is to keep her as an option -- that is, if she approaches you, be open to doing something. But don't hang on her, because you'll just ending up hurting yourself. This type of girl can really break your heart, trust me.