this guilt is killing me

[JohnBGood]

I've had only two serious relationships in my life. My wife of 17 years and an ex girfriend. Both relationships I entered impulsively. For example, my ex wife and I were engaged after only 4 dates.

 

I promised friends and family that I would enter my next relationship thoughtfully - meaning that I would date numerous ladies before any serious committment.

 

I went on match and I've had dates with 4 gals - two of which i like very much. And i've lined up dates with 3 others in the next week or so.

 

Now for the problem.. One of the two girls that I like is getting serious about me (we've had 3 dates), and we have been physical. I like her very much, but I still want to shop around a bit more. the guilt is killing me.. i realize that i should have told her early on that I would be dating several gals. I don't know what to do.. i've lied to this wonderful girl about my weekend plans and now I'm caught up in a web of lies. I don't want to hurt this person...

 

I'm thinking of buying her lunch this week and coming clean.. is that the right thing to do?

[D-Lish]

Coming clean and being honest is the right thing to do, however, you might want to preface your intentions from here on out before having sex with someone.

[alyssatranswarrior]

Yeah I think you should make it clear you are considering many dates from match, and assure the girls that if they still want to have physical intimacy, that its their choice and in light of your dating conditions.

[JohnBGood]

Yeah I think you should make it clear you are considering many dates from match, and assure the girls that if they still want to have physical intimacy, that its their choice and in light of your dating conditions.

 

 

Good advice... thanks.

[JohnBGood]

Good advice... thanks.

 

 

I came clean this morning with her. We will see what happens next.