buzzie2 Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 There is a guy that I really like and I am pretty sure it's mutual. So far we havent started dating we are still just getting to know each other. I already know two of his close friends. I get along really well with the one guy and the other I am still not sure about. So how important when you do start dating someone is it to get along with their friends?
Fra Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 Well.. In my experience, if you get along with the friends too, then you will end up hanging out with them when he is doin somethin with them. If you dont like them... then, well there would be less time. But that is what I have observed.
USMCHokie Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 It's very important that I get along with her friends and they get along with me. It's not my intention to separate my SO from her friends, so her friends will inevitably become my friends as well. But it's never been an issue for me. People like me.
zengirl Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 I don't make it a priority right away to introduce my friends or get to know his, but I've always at least gotten along with my boyfriend's friends, sometimes really liked his circle. There are usually friends I tolerate/that tolerate me and others I really click with. It's not like people have cookie-cutter friends who are all the same. Some might be people I've got little/nothing in common with, so we won't be close or anything. But I definitely think it's important not to have any negativity/hostility and certainly not to encourage it. I've always respected my SO's friendships and expected him to respect mine.
tigressA Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 It's pretty important to me. So far I haven't had any problems at all with an SO's friends. I do believe that if there's a basic respect and no hostility, then things will usually turn out fine, but I think age/position in life can be a pretty big factor overall. Currently I'm seeing someone who's only 4 years older than me and I have yet to meet his friends, but from what I know of them they're older (the younger ones would be roughly 10 years older than me), and are established in their careers, some are married with kids, etc, and I am nowhere near that. I'm still just a somewhat aimless 23-year-old so I'm a bit worried about how I'll fare in their company once I'm introduced. And I wonder if the guy I'm seeing wouldn't think that some of my friends are kind of immature. I don't see us having close mutual friends in the offing.
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