Rejection

[Fra]

Rejection suucks D:

 

Been gettin rejected from the moment I entered highschool too.

 

First girl I liked, I was really shy. took me 3 months to ask her out. She said I was just a friend. Came over to my house, made out with me. WHuuuu?

 

Yeah. She left, go to her house and same happens.

I ask her out again. "we will see" 3 weeks later she is with a friend from elementary school.

 

Soo. Went half a year without even flirtin or anything. Kinda shut down cause I called her a slut after she stared boucing from guy to guy and lost her virginity cause she was bored. >_>;;

 

So mid year of my sophmore year. Transfer student. Talk to her a while. Ask her out after a few days. Says yes. Day before the date, she is in the arms of one of her elementary buds.... Thus over. she moves. That is that.

 

Last year, junior year, I ask out many of the girls I have grown to like. Excuse upon excuse. I tried everythin I can think of. But I have been told "I will call you later" and getting no such call, all the way to "I forgot I had a boyfriend"

 

Some even say yes. Then they say they are busy for 3 weeks. After such weeks of having me waiting, she say she dont like me...

 

So Had a girl over durin super bowl and made out. decided to stay with her. Things kicked the bucket recently. Now everyone is taken, or they just are making up excuses. I cant even hang out with my friends either cause they are doin stuff wih their girlfriends. It is really getting me down. I do not know what to do to ask a girl out now. I have read take it slow, ask her out fast, Keep up being hard headed, give it up, everything I can think of and read about, nothin seems to help.

 

So, anyone here have any ideas? [i work out too, and am actually in shape- not bulked, but slim] but I dunno. Maybe I really am repulsive... :/

[Raderick]

Calm the bleep down. I take it you're still in high school? That's the beginning. I'm almost 23 and very much single. Sure I'd like to be in a relationship, but at your age I wouldn't even be rushing it.

 

It just seems like peer pressure is getting the best of you. Hang with your single friends, and enjoy their company. And hang out with your friends who have girlfriends; more times than not those relationships won't last long, and be there for them.

Edited July 25, 2010 by Raderick

[Fra]

I can not really do that.. During the weeks I am working until 6 on the weekends... Not much I can do after that... Parents only will let me go see a movie around that time. Work every week day, but weekends are free. Just so happens that my friends are always goin out and doin somethin with their girls those days. Sundays are church and family days for them [or girls again].

 

I've tried for the past month now.. But same thing. Nothing is working out for me here. :/

 

I can work a girl in though, I know that. My father already told me if I had a girl, he would be lenient and let me go out with her during week days after work as long as I got to bed around 11.

 

So I mean.. Louisiana sucks.

[zengirl]

Join some clubs or something. You're in high school. I second the "Chill out."

[Fra]

Fencing team, Sci-fi, Japanese Culture Club, Animal House... And I mean. I just really wanna have a girl to go out and do stuff with. I am not in it for booty or anthing. Just have someone there. I'm always feeling like no one is really here. Our house is big and empty. Mother is always riding my back and we aren't close. My dad is always working and cant sleep at night... so we cant do anything..

 

So any have advice for highschool dating as a senior?

[Raderick]

Rejection suucks D:

 

Been gettin rejected from the moment I entered highschool too.

 

First girl I liked, I was really shy. took me 3 months to ask her out. She said I was just a friend. Came over to my house, made out with me. WHuuuu?

 

Yeah. She left, go to her house and same happens.

I ask her out again. "we will see" 3 weeks later she is with a friend from elementary school.

 

Soo. Went half a year without even flirtin or anything. Kinda shut down cause I called her a slut after she stared boucing from guy to guy and lost her virginity cause she was bored. >_>;;

 

So mid year of my sophmore year. Transfer student. Talk to her a while. Ask her out after a few days. Says yes. Day before the date, she is in the arms of one of her elementary buds.... Thus over. she moves. That is that.

 

Last year, junior year, I ask out many of the girls I have grown to like. Excuse upon excuse. I tried everythin I can think of. But I have been told "I will call you later" and getting no such call, all the way to "I forgot I had a boyfriend"

 

Some even say yes. Then they say they are busy for 3 weeks. After such weeks of having me waiting, she say she dont like me...

 

So Had a girl over durin super bowl and made out. decided to stay with her. Things kicked the bucket recently. Now everyone is taken, or they just are making up excuses. I cant even hang out with my friends either cause they are doin stuff wih their girlfriends. It is really getting me down. I do not know what to do to ask a girl out now. I have read take it slow, ask her out fast, Keep up being hard headed, give it up, everything I can think of and read about, nothin seems to help.

 

So, anyone here have any ideas? [i work out too, and am actually in shape- not bulked, but slim] but I dunno. Maybe I really am repulsive... :/

 

I can not really do that.. During the weeks I am working until 6 on the weekends... Not much I can do after that... Parents only will let me go see a movie around that time. Work every week day, but weekends are free. Just so happens that my friends are always goin out and doin somethin with their girls those days. Sundays are church and family days for them [or girls again].

 

I've tried for the past month now.. But same thing. Nothing is working out for me here. :/

 

I can work a girl in though, I know that. My father already told me if I had a girl, he would be lenient and let me go out with her during week days after work as long as I got to bed around 11.

 

So I mean.. Louisiana sucks.

 

You can't call your friend to say hi? Calling and talking to them helps to keep you in their minds. Do you have a cell phone to text them? I know kids your age like to text out of their minds.

[Fra]

uhmm.. Between work, and tryin to keep in touch with people via the internet... And my absent minded-ness of the cellphone.. I usually forget where I have it... and the cell is over 8 or so years old or so. one of the first flip phones.. Has texting.. but I would rather call people or write somethin through facebook... Actually I think I lost it today.. threw a party and my cell died... I threw it somewhere...

 

But in short words.. I do not care about my cellphone at all.... Which is an issue with my friends, cause my friends dont bother with facebook or the internet.. unless it is steam. But I dun care about steam... so thus..

 

Yeah. Only way I talk to em is by calling. I go weeks without talkin to the 7 of em. and when I do they are busy. I threw a party today... half the people went to another party. thrown by a bitch who said she couldn't come cause she was goin to be out of town.

 

Anyways -rage ugh- I am just feeling secluded really. Thus why I want a GF. Least while I had one, it is someone who wants to keep in touch with me also. Unlike my buds, who I always feel like I am bothering if I go over to hang out.

[Fra]

Basically I am just getting worried that I am becoming really desensitized... At first I remember how a rejection was a heartbreaker... And I looked at women as actual people... Tried to treat em well if somethin happened. Talked to em a lot.. But now.. I look at em as bitches who do not care about anything other than the better and prettier package... or the past ones. Or their firsts, who have no issue shutting down a guy as long as they do not look mean. They have no issue giving their digits to you, because they figure you will get the picture after they do not reply to your 2nd call or 3rd text until they are taken again with your best friend.

 

I mean, I swore I would never get to the point where a rejection didn't matter, but now I am down to point to where it don't matter.... Just another girl who is too caught up in herself to give me a chance....

 

 

I think I am slowly turning into a shovenistic[sp?] pig...

 

 

Edit-

Just wanted to re-iterate on the question here... Is there anything i can do to actually get ONE girl to go out on a date with me?

Edited July 25, 2010 by Fra
Uh

[zengirl]

Your attitude towards your life, your friends, and women is unhealthy in these posts. Really, it's no wonder you're unhappy and unable to have the life you want socially. . . focus on getting your own self/mind/feelings to a happy place before trying to form relationships with other people.

[zengirl]

Dude I'm sure you're a great guy, but the above group of activities are all pretty "nerdy."

 

Women like manly men, not George McFly.

 

For HS, maybe that's true. I don't know much about dating in HS. (I had a boyfriend, but he started pulling my pigtails when I was 9 years old. We just adored each other.) I've heard it's pretty much useless from every healthy person I know, and yet many unhealthy people I know think HS was the time of their lives. Plenty of people think something in between (this is more where I fall). At any rate, I know plenty of nerds with great girlfriends. Cute nerds do extremely well later in life, but, yes, part of what makes them awesome (those that turn out awesome) is the hard time they had in HS.

Edited July 25, 2010 by zengirl

[MrNate]

I can not really do that.. During the weeks I am working until 6 on the weekends... Not much I can do after that... Parents only will let me go see a movie around that time. Work every week day, but weekends are free. Just so happens that my friends are always goin out and doin somethin with their girls those days. Sundays are church and family days for them [or girls again].

 

I've tried for the past month now.. But same thing. Nothing is working out for me here. :/

 

I can work a girl in though, I know that. My father already told me if I had a girl, he would be lenient and let me go out with her during week days after work as long as I got to bed around 11.

So I mean.. Louisiana sucks.

 

AMEN. I'm down here also, and I second this..lol.

[Fra]

Your attitude towards your life, your friends, and women is unhealthy in these posts. Really, it's no wonder you're unhappy and unable to have the life you want socially. . . focus on getting your own self/mind/feelings to a happy place before trying to form relationships with other people.

 

Actually I was doin pretty good up until the middle of last year, after having been rejected about 25 times by different people.

 

Now it is starting to get underneath my manly man-skin.

 

Maybe I need to switch to Old Spice Body Wash? Cause it is so powerful it blocks out the sun... But then it gets too cold, so it makes another sun. DOUBLE SUN POWER!

 

 

AMEN. I'm down here also, and I second this..lol.

 

>_>;; I got a buddy down here that I still wanna smack for being an ass to a girl I have liked. His name is Nate.

 

<_<;;

 

 

I wanna move to Colorado. Just saying.

 

 

Edit-

 

Dude I'm sure you're a great guy, but the above group of activities are all pretty "nerdy."

 

Women like manly men, not George McFly.

 

Yeah.. well that aint all I do. Goalie for soccer team when I was in it. I have a freakin swimming pool in my back yard. Swim it almost ever day during the summer. I bike almost everywhere..

 

As for other school activities- Our highschool is almost pure academics. No football team [thank god] and no cheerleaders [ ]. Not many "Manly" things to do other than the few sports that we have. However going to a torney every other weekend doesnt let me play soccer for the school. Also I have Fencing practice every other day or so. Just too hectic, really.

Edited July 25, 2010 by Fra
Hur durr