lando Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Okay so i'm very confused about this girl i'm seeing. It's still a new thing and I know that things can be very tricky in the beginning, but I feel i've noticed a drastic change in behavior from her.. Her and I work together, and we have for a while. There were a few months where she was dating another guy, and I make a point of not being interested in taken women, so I kind of left her alone. Eventually she told me that she had broken up with him a little while back, which caught me by surprise! A switch kind of flipped in my head and I even caught myself thinking I was interested in her. After that day, her & I casually made plans to go out for a movie, but for a reason I can't remember it never happened. She brought it up again asking when we were gonna go, and we set a date. We started texting each other, and it became very flirty both ways. She was the one to make certain that us going out was our 'first date'. First date was great. We went out for a bit before the movie, held hands and kissed. We also made plans for our 2nd date. Continued to text a lot, clearly we were liking each other more and more. 2nd date was also great! Still texted a lot every day. 3rd date.. well, 3rd date was amazing. Her and I both wanted to get physical, but we both live with our parents right now.. So we got a hotel for a night. We spent the whole day together, and the night, and it was incredible. There was no doubt in my mind that this girl was head over heels for me. That night we also made things official between us. We spent some time together the next day before I took her home, at which point we kissed goodbye and she told me to text her later. I fully intended to text her later, but she texted me first thanking me for such a wonderful night. That was last friday. The day after, I was with my family, and her and I were still texting back & forth. she said she'd love to meet my family and that she couldn't wait to see me again (which was supposed to be last sunday).. Anyways, this is where things took a turn.. On sunday she texts me saying she's having kind of a weird moment. She said that she was feeling like things were going like they did with her last boyfriend. She said that she really likes me, but just wanted to slow things down a bit. I responded to her saying that I really like her to, and agreed that we should slow things down a bit. In all honesty, my head was saying all along to try to take things slow, but everything else wasn't. She asked if we could postpone getting together later that day until monday, just to 'slow things down a bit'.. Well, we never got together on monday. Never heard from her. At all. Nothing on tuesday either. At this point i'm feeling rather confused! Wednesday we both worked. I got there first and she got there a little bit later. I was kinda worked up, anxious to figure out what was going on. No one was around so we chatted for a bit. one of the first things she tells me is that her phone charger died and so her phone was dead. We chatted a bit more, and kissed. Kissed a couple more times throughout the day (we've been sneaking them in when we were alone ever since the first date). Basically, it was as if there was absolutely nothing wrong! I felt so relieved! Thursday, nothing. Friday I see her again, just briefly, but she kissed me and then held me for a bit. BTW her phone is still out of commision at this point. I ask her when we can get together next. She tells me that she has saturday morning (today) free, but just the morning because she'll be with family the rest of the day. Then she asks me if i'm working tuesday. Both of us are off on tuesday. Well we never got together this morning. Tried calling her once, and yeah her phone is still dead. I'm confused by this.. If the situation were reversed, and my charger broke, i'd go buy one that same day! Granted I use my iPhone a lot (she has a really old Nokia that she only uses to call and text with), but at the very least i'd do it just to keep in touch with her. Our only way of communicating (when we're both not working) is through our cell phones, and it's been almost a week and she still hasn't gotten a new charger! This past week the only times i've seen her and talked to her has been when we were both at work! Considering the last text she sent me (which was a week ago) was saying how she'd like to slow things down, and she still hasn't gotten a new charger, but whenever we do see each other everything is fine & dandy... Well, i'm just not certain where we stand I feel I should talk to her about it, but I can't do that unless we get together, and we can't get together until we can communicate, and we can't communicate until she gets a new charger! I know for certain we are 'supposed' to get together on tuesday, but that all depends on her, really..
MyNameIsJonas Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Normally I tend to try and spin it so that there's a positive light, but the way you described everything, I can't. In a nutshell, she probably got back together with her ex or found someone else and she has a new phone (probably with a new number). Too many people rely on cell phones these days to go so long without one. I don't buy her "haven't bought a charger" line. I wouldn't take it personally; just stay away from her and move on. My only tip is to not spend so much time with a woman in the beginning. If you spend so much time with a woman so early: - the unstable ones get bored because they crave attention and thus constantly need to find new sources of it; and - the stable women get freaked because it sets off the clinger alert. By taking it slow in all situations, you weed out the bad ones and keep the good ones. I'm sorry man; they all aren't like this.
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