lauren_b_865 Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Hey everyone... I have met a wonderful man of honesty, integrity, loyalty and compassion. Sounds cliche but from the moment we met, we have been drawn to each other. It has always felt like it's meant to be... We live in 2 different states but this is not a barrier to our relationship. We fly to and from and talk a lot about the future as a focus (We are moving in together in April). The only problem I have with this is when we are together, he does not understand his own strength. Being playful, he slaps me on the butt, bites me, pokes me etc.. I have told him, he has no idea how much he's hurting me and I get a patronising "ooooooohhhhhwwweeeee" or pats me across the front of the face. I just can not win. Last time I stayed with him, I came home with a big bruised bite mark on my arm and on my bottom from the slaps. When I showed him the marks and said - the slapping needs to stop, it hurts, look at these bruises... he continued to be a little patronising, then changed the subject. It's more so about the taunt, then the marks (I do bruise easily) but I just want it to stop. When we have spoken about it, he gets defenseful because that's part of what makes up his personality. ANy ideas?
Cracker Jack Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I don't know how serious you come off when you tell him, but let him know that the ****e is getting out of hand. His patronizing should stop after a certain extent. Oh, and if you give him a bj, crunch it.
robdrm32 Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Yes, next time he "playfully" pinches, bruises, slaps you, or whatever, then you "playfully" kick him just as hard as you can in his balls. In fact if you have a roll of quarters then hold it in your fist and punch him in the balls. If he doesn't get the message, dump him, because he sounds like an idiot. While i find this a little extreme I would just flat out say "knock it off or i'm out of here" If he tries to play it off as no big deal tell him "i'm asking you not to do something that bothers/hurts me, that should be enough" If he doesn't get the picture then he isn't worth your time.
HeldbyGravity Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Yes, next time he "playfully" pinches, bruises, slaps you, or whatever, then you "playfully" kick him just as hard as you can in his balls. In fact if you have a roll of quarters then hold it in your fist and punch him in the balls. If he doesn't get the message, dump him, because he sounds like an idiot. Pretty much what they said. He needs to respect your.... well, you! If he's hurting you, he needs to know it. If he does something that you don't like, he shouldn't keep dong it. I'm sorry, but stupidity is truly doing the same thing over and over again when it didn't work the first time. Of course, if you're getting physical and he does this, try just stopping all contact and leaving him hanging to take a shower or shop or something.
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