priyaso Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 A guy from class asked me out. I noticed him earlier on the bus and thought he was cute. Later, I realized he was also in one of my classes. I'm so focused in class that I'm oblivious as to who is in it. The thing is I don't know much about him, and he's already asked me out. He rarely actually looks at me, when he talks to me. Seems really timid. He doesn't talk much so that doesn't help matters. I realize he may be shy or nervous around me. Not sure which. I usually notice him all alone, and I rarely see him talking to anyone. So I'm not sure if he asked me out, because I'm a friendly girl. I'm the one who approached him with a question about class, because he was smiling at me. From then on (last semester anyway), every time I turn around, I would always see him. I'm not really too interested in going out with him yet until I get to know him, and he's really not giving me that opportunity. It's date right away. I'm usually the type to get to know a person first before I go out on a date with them. So it's a dilemma. I'm not sure what to do. This guy actually asked me out on a date a month in advance. He's waiting for me to finish the semester, since I'm busy studying. I would like to get to know him more, and we don't have any classes together this semester. I'm always studying with my group of friends, and I'm not comfortable being around with someone of the opposite sex outside of the school/work context unless I've had time to get to know them. What to do?
HeldbyGravity Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 (edited) You can start with asking him to hang out at the movies with you and a group of friends. Ask him to be with your friends/a friend and you a couple of times, and then see if you're comfortable enough with having coffee in a public place with him, or going somewhere open and public. This is of course after you tell him that you need to get to know him much better before you make a decision. Be honest with him, don't beat around the bush or he may lose interest. You have to insist on this getting to know him thing, okay? If he isn't patient enough to get to know you, or gets mad when you suggest it then something is fishy- in this case, just tell him sorry but no, you don't know him enough to date him. But you have to make time to get to know people in the first place if you want to date, so pick a day or an afternoon to take off. Edited July 24, 2010 by HeldbyGravity
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