Marks Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 I've been going out with this girl for almost five months now, and I feel like we've really gotten close, especially since the summer began. We're both in college, so now that we're on break, we've both had more time to talk to each other and bond. After having a wonderful weekend together just last week, I feel like something has changed though. On Monday I tried calling her, and couldn't reach her. When she finally called back, I just missed the last ring, and so I had to call her right back. Yet she didn't pickup, even though she just called, and due to some residual frustration from earlier in the day, I might have went overboard and attempted to reach her two more times. When she finally got back to me, she seemed very annoyed and said I was "suffocating" her, and that she doesn't have to tell me what she's doing. Later she apologized for making the "suffocating" comment, and she seemed back to her normal self since then. I was going to go on a trip the next day, so she told me to call her when I got back. Things seemed to go well, she even texted me "goodnight" one of the days I was gone. When I got back home, I proceeded to call her, but she never responded. I got worried that something might've happened to her, so the next morning I texted her asking if everything was okay and that I was worried. She finally responded and said that she was just asleep when I called her at 9p the night before. Kind of bewildered that she would go to sleep so early, I made a comment that I was surprised about that. With that she responded, "Excuse me, but I don't need to explain to anyone about what time I go to sleep." I explained that I was just surprised by her going to sleep so early and that was all. But I was a bit upset that she didn't stay up like she usually does, especially since she told me to call her when I got back. Ultimately though, I don't get what these comments indicate, especially since things seemed to go so well just shortly before (and even during the week when I was out of town for that matter).
Sabali Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 I think she meant just what she said. You are probably suffocating her. The fact that she said it out front without hinting at it and not using euphemism is not the greatest thing. I kind of got that you were probably suffocating her from your post. She is telling you to give her a little space and people deserve this when they need it. I can tell you that I can't recall ever being in a relationship and went on a trip and my girlfriend didn't request that I call her while I was on the trip. She probably is hearing and seeing too much from you. How many times do you call her a day and visit her? 5 months is still early in a relationship. When you called and called her and she called you back but you missed her and tried to call her back but didn't reach her means she was just calling you back so she could say that she did it but she didn't actually want to talk. I have and I am sure many people have done this many times. Be careful to give your woman the space she needs. Try not to project insecurity by forcing yourself on her. Also, I would not have called her on the whole sleeping at 9pm thing or made a comment. It was not like you saw her out dancing in a club at that time. Sometimes we just have to know when to not sweat the small stuff. That is very key in any relationship. Not sweating the small stuff.
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