Weary30 Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Short Summary, then the issue. Our first meet was coffee about a week ago (internet dating)...previous to that we had a few phone conversations. In the course of conversations he made a few things very very clear. These are the following...he likes to take things slow, he'd like to be friends first and see if there is a 'spark', he DOES NOT date more that one chick at a time, made it clear he is not seeing any other women, he is looking for a long-term relationship. He has mentioned all of these things a few times. He has also mentioned frequently me going over to his house, us watching ____ show or movie, seeing his place, made off handed comments like if we were together in 2 years we would go to such and such place/vacation. I sort of let the comments he made roll of my back...and didn't focus too much on them. We went for coffee the other night (meeting #2), I think he talked the ENTIRE time. I made the odd comment here or there...but essentially it was all him. I got to hear about how 'tough' he is, and his past gf's. Honestly its one thing to talk about an old relationship...or mention something funny that happened, but to complain about someone for 20 min about this and that, about something that happened like 5 years ago makes me a little uneasy. So the Crux of the situation is this. Before this meeting we had planned to see a movie on the weekend, that contained an attractive movie star. He made a joke to me about only wanting to see the movie because this movie star was in it. I joked back about it. So after this 2nd meeting I txted him to tell him the time of the movie on the weekend...and he ended up making a joke about how he thought said movie star was hot. I said: 'And you were worried about me having a crush'...in reference to the movie star...and it really was him that had the crush. I get this txt message back about how he can tell about the crush. I was like 'what??'. He goes on about how he can tell I have a crush on him, and that he wants to start out as friends and go from there. I retorted that I was 'really happy to hear that apparently I have a massive crush, while he stood on neutral ground'. He then went on to say it takes more than 2 meetings to get to know someone. So I told him I was completely put off by what he said..that I don't expect anything from him AT ALL...and that he can't put a completely different standard on me than himself...and that he was completely over reaching. His next text was that he was sorry, and he apologized for misunderstanding. We have met twice. I completely felt like he was sitting there gloating that I apparently had a crush on him. I felt like he was sitting there thinking that I was sitting here crying and cutting myself because we weren't together. I was animated and gregarious with him, but not simpering, clingy, or flirtatious. The fact that he keeps going on and on and on about going slow or being friends makes me think he is sitting there interpretting me as pining away for him...which is completely ridiculous. To be honest....it completely put me off...and I won't be going out with him again. I felt like he was being completely arrogant...and it actually made me feel quite angry. Thanks for letting me vent!!
cabarc1 Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 What a weirdo! Glad to see you were smart enough to let that one go It amazes me what some of the women on here put up with from guys they JUST met.
D-Lish Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 You ask what is wrong with this guy, and the sensible answer is: "well, he's a douche-bag". The fact that he's demonstrated such glaring red flags after such a short time means he's not worth pursuing. If you can recognize that and move on, then you don't need to start a new thread next week asking "what's wrong with me?".
Diezel Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Congratulations, you're dating a woman in a man's body.
gamma1 Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Short Summary, then the issue. Our first meet was coffee about a week ago (internet dating)...previous to that we had a few phone conversations. In the course of conversations he made a few things very very clear. These are the following...he likes to take things slow, he'd like to be friends first and see if there is a 'spark', he DOES NOT date more that one chick at a time, made it clear he is not seeing any other women, he is looking for a long-term relationship. So far, no big issues. He has mentioned all of these things a few times. He has also mentioned frequently me going over to his house, us watching ____ show or movie, seeing his place, made off handed comments like if we were together in 2 years we would go to such and such place/vacation. I sort of let the comments he made roll of my back...and didn't focus too much on them. We went for coffee the other night (meeting #2), I think he talked the ENTIRE time. I made the odd comment here or there...but essentially it was all him. I got to hear about how 'tough' he is, and his past gf's. Honestly its one thing to talk about an old relationship...or mention something funny that happened, but to complain about someone for 20 min about this and that, about something that happened like 5 years ago makes me a little uneasy. These are all big issues. I'd break it off now.
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