nolagurl07 Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Hi so Ive been dating this guy since last november..Things were going good for us and I was really starting to fall for him but I was always scared he didnt feel as strongly for me. One night about 3 months ago he ended it no reason just left. That same week was the moment I was planning on telling him that I was pregnant with his child and no it wasnt planned. I was devastated b/c here i was begging and pleading him to come back and he never would. He eventually found out that I was and when he asked me if it was true I said no b/c by that time I had already terminated my pregnancy. I felt so bad for lying to him and I told him the truth that I had lied. I hurt him really bad and we didnt speak for 3 months. It was the hardest 3 months of my life b/c I missed him and I just wanted to make things rite again. Ive never lied to him before so I think it really tore me up that I hurt him. During that time, I started sending him texts every so often telling him I missed him and eventually he started coming around. As of now, we are talking again. He called me up about a month ago and said that during our time apart he dated a gurl for about a month and a half. He said he ended it weeks ago b/c he realized that he missed me and the fact that I was still contacting him telling him I cared got him thinking. I went on dates but nothing serious during that time. I know I need to earn his trust back and I told him I was sorry and willing to do anything to make things rite. I feel like we are back to normal now as if nothing happened but I still feel like hes not fully letting me in yet which I understand. Im just wondering if anyone out there has been there like me and how do you show him you love him how do I fix the past. I havent told him I loved him and he hasnt said it either but I want to I just feel like it mite be too soon rite and maybe I should wait for him to say it but I really want to make up for all the wrong Ive done. One more thing, he hasnt really asked me to be his girlfriend again should I just wait that one out I dont want to push the label of "us" especially if I have some making up to do. Is it a good thing he came back after all this time..i feel like it might be because he really does love me too..any thoughts?
D-Lish Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 First of all, don't beat yourself up. You did what you had to do given the situation. He left you, and you were left facing a really difficult situation and choice- you made the choice you had to. A lot of us would have made the same decision given a similar circumstance. Doesn't he accept any responsibility in all of this? He did break things off and walk away. You could have told him you were pregnant, but it's not like he left any doors open for you to broach the subject. I think you need to give yourself a bit of a break here.
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