kahn2154 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Sat next to girl on plane, we talked for most of the flight, she worked for a sporting company, so it was really easy to talk to her since it was just talking sports. She offered me tickets to event pretty early on flight and at end of flight gave me her business card and wrote number on back, was pretty psyched because it was first number I've ever gotten from a girl. Anyways I walked with her from Plane to baggage carousel, while on the plane she was warm and friendly it was more awkward during the walk, she talked but not as open, don't really know how to explain it. I had free time so I texted her about tickets, was too scared to call and didn't know if email would just get lost among her other emails (She showed me how many press releases she received and just ignored them) Anyways, we essentially exchanged one text each a day, she'd take a day to respond, and I'd read over my text for hours before hitting send. This was basically our convo: July 11 8:50 PM Hey ____ this is ___ sat next to you on the plane just wondering if ticket offer still stands. Her July 12 11:18 PM Hi ___! Of course - when would you like to come? July 13 5:01 PM Tomorrow or Thursday would be fine July 14 2:57 PM One? What name should I leave them under? July 14 4:15 PM Yeah _________ I never got response/confirmation from her after that. Don't think she had them finalized as I assumed she would contact me back with more details. Didn't know whether to contact her again as she might just be busy and didn't want to bother her or maybe she couldn't get it done in time and assumed I had left town (I originally told her I was leaving Tuesday the 13th but good possibility I would extend) Well that Friday evening decided I was going to book flight out Saturday, problem is Saturday and Sunday flights were booked and I couldn't take another non direct flight because I had special internet bulk fare, had to be the same flight and first available flight was Monday. I knew from talking with her she was scheduled to leave on the same flight (we had same morning flights on different days, I said that is the latest flight I might take) I was scared it would be awkward if we saw each other, and thought it was a good possibility since she told me she always gets same exit row seats and I planned on requesting exit row seats. Was scared it might look stalkerish and hoped if I met her she ran into me and not the other way around. Anyways I saw her out of the corner of my eye at the gate but just pretended to do something on iphone, was sitting in front of entrance to plane at gate and saw her go up when they called first class. Don't know if she saw me either time as I just did stuff on iphone. She sat first class while I got middle of economy exit rows so no chance of seeing her on plane. I saw her again at baggage claim, I was on south side of the belt (near airport exit) where they dumped baggage and it then went counter clockwise as I saw her coming in my direction. I then went to work on iphone again to avoid eye contact, picked head up a minute later and then saw her walking opposite direction and she was near the north side (near arrivals exit and basically back to door she came out of ) and ended up behind the pillar so I basically couldn't see her. Now she is a frequent flier, tells me she is flying 2-3 days a week and basically gave me all the in and outs of airtravel and when I walked with her to baggage carousel if vegas she went up to where they slide baggage off and told me it went counter clockwise I believe so I assume she knew where fastest way to get her baggage would be since it is what she did in Vegas. So at this point I don't know if I"m being paranoid or maybe she saw me and went to other side to avoid me. Anyways I'm pretty upset after this, don't know if I mishandled something, if I was supposed to go pickup tickets and she might be mad at me for wasting her time or something. This is probably the longest conversation I've had with a girl my age since like 4th grade though and not even looking at it from romantic standpoint since she was 4 years older but more of I wish I made a friend. Did I do something wrong? Should I have done something different, been more aggressive with the texts? I had someone tell me that she was interested and if she were in girls shoes she'd think I was using her for tickets, which was not the case, could care less about the tickets and if anyone else offered them to me for free I would pass. Would it be too weird to text her now? especially with possibility she may have seen me at airport? Or could I text her something like apologizing for not being able to make it out there Just really upset about this now because she is the first girl in my life who seemingly showed any interest in me and I blew it Really hard to let go. PS: why are advice and help censored from being used in subject?
Green Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 You probably blew it. But so what really. Just learn from it. Your ego should be boosted that a girl just gave you her number. Thats pretty rare and means that you came off as a cool guy. My advice is always the same... TRY... and TRY often and DON'T BE AFRAID OF REJECTION. You DID NOT TRY.. and you seemed so afraid to be REJECTED to the point that you hid from her by acting busy with your phone... First its great that she offered her number up so easy... but WHY DIDN'T you ask her out... "Yeah those tickets sound great, You have to let me take you to a great Vegas buffet to thank you".... then when you had your DATE you would have to be flirty (fun conversation... maybe tease her in a way she will enjoy and laugh at) then you KISS her on the lips before the date is over... You didn't try. Look you have her number so why not call her up and just ask her out. Ask her out on a same day date or next day. Since tommorow is Friday you could try calling her now and seeing if she wants to get a drink or something.. if not see if she is free for lunch. Also don't get to focused or worried about this girl. If you see her again risk being stalkerish or creepy. Seriously I know a girl could call me a creepy stalker when I walk up to her or what ever after only meeting her once... but thats the risk you have to take. It happens but look where you are now for not even trying. TRY. Don't get to focused on this one girl. Learn from your mistakes.. and enjoy it... kinda a good story even though it might not work out.
Author kahn2154 Posted July 23, 2010 Author Posted July 23, 2010 Are girls really that fickle about guys in a situation like this that her opinion of me has completely reversed? I did not try because I'm an idiot and never been in a situation like this, I didn't know her actions meant she was interested in me, three weeks ago my attitude was no girl could be interested in me. If I could go back in time I would do it differently and done the dinner thing over txt.
Green Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Are girls really that fickle about guys in a situation like this that her opinion of me has completely reversed? I did not try because I'm an idiot and never been in a situation like this, I didn't know her actions meant she was interested in me, three weeks ago my attitude was no girl could be interested in me. If I could go back in time I would do it differently and done the dinner thing over txt. Look you can't go back in time but history repeats itself. So you will have more plan rides/train rides/ boat rides ect. where you get to sit next to a pretty girl. Girls are girls that all there is to it. She gave you her number and offered you free tickets... thats more then most people ever get. Look it is easier just to txt a girl but easier doesn't mean better. You should just call her and ask her out. Yes you might get rejected but oh well. Most likely if you get rejected it will be by her saying something like "maybe some other time" or maybe she just won't answer the call and never return your voice mail.... If she rejects you in some way other then explicitly telling you "I have a bf" or "please stop calling" then you can give it a few more tries and call her and ask her out until you get bored or it becomes obviouse she will never say yes. Personaly I think the ship may have already sailed as you put it when you didn't just ask her out... but give it a try dude face rejection. Don't get to hung up on this one girl you should be asking lots of girls out. You will get more confident the more you get rejected... and then when girls start saying yes it feels great... Just Remember the advice I gave above. TRY... don't fear REJECTION.. and go for the KISS. txting and not asking girls out is easy... but the easy way is rarely the best
Sabali Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Are girls really that fickle about guys in a situation like this that her opinion of me has completely reversed? I did not try because I'm an idiot and never been in a situation like this, I didn't know her actions meant she was interested in me, three weeks ago my attitude was no girl could be interested in me. If I could go back in time I would do it differently and done the dinner thing over txt. Don't be so hard on yourself, guy. You sound quite introverted. In the dating world for someone who frequently dates and have no problems approaching women, a situation like that is called "Thurdsay evening." When it comes to dating, you comes across many women and many numbers and most go no where. This was one of those no wheres. You think it could have went somewhere because you got the number and had a great conversation but that is extremely common. You win some, you lose some. Maybe you put so much stock into this one because you don't get into these situations that often but to be honest, while reading your post, I saw nothing special there. I am not downplaying you here but I saw a typical situation where a guy talks to a woman, get the number, and then nothing happens. Just keep at it, those numbers will rise but your chance for actually connecting with someone truly great will also.
Author kahn2154 Posted July 23, 2010 Author Posted July 23, 2010 Don't be so hard on yourself, guy. You sound quite introverted. In the dating world for someone who frequently dates and have no problems approaching women, a situation like that is called "Thurdsay evening." When it comes to dating, you comes across many women and many numbers and most go no where. This was one of those no wheres. You think it could have went somewhere because you got the number and had a great conversation but that is extremely common. You win some, you lose some. Maybe you put so much stock into this one because you don't get into these situations that often but to be honest, while reading your post, I saw nothing special there. I am not downplaying you here but I saw a typical situation where a guy talks to a woman, get the number, and then nothing happens. Just keep at it, those numbers will rise but your chance for actually connecting with someone truly great will also. I mean, this is what I thought at first, but everyone was building it up as something else, so which one is it before I go and make a fool of myself? When would be the latest I could try to call her? Some kind of deadline?
Green Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 I mean, this is what I thought at first, but everyone was building it up as something else, so which one is it before I go and make a fool of myself? When would be the latest I could try to call her? Some kind of deadline? How are you going to make a fool out of yourself? Look my only point is TRY stop worrying about if some girl will think you are a fool/creep/stalker ect... Stop fearing REJECTION. My opinion is she liked you and wanted you to ask her out. She may or may not have already lost interest since you never did ask her out. My advice is TRY.
Author kahn2154 Posted July 23, 2010 Author Posted July 23, 2010 How are you going to make a fool out of yourself? Look my only point is TRY stop worrying about if some girl will think you are a fool/creep/stalker ect... Stop fearing REJECTION. My opinion is she liked you and wanted you to ask her out. She may or may not have already lost interest since you never did ask her out. My advice is TRY. I guess since I, and this other guy read it as nothing, and when I contact her she acts like it was that, I could make a fool. I think I've already decided I will contact her though, I would rather get rejected at this point then live with a what if until the next girl which could be God knows when Green, is there anyway I can contact you off the board? IM or something?
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