Paralyzed Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Been dating her for a month. I'm 33 she is 32. There has been no sex. NONE! Not even close really. We've talked about it, she knows im getting frustrated. She claims she doesn't know me well enough and that we haven't been on enough proper dates. I see this girl at least 4 times a week. Text or email, or talk on the phone everyday, all day. She also got very jealous when I had a boys night planned with my buddies. She has a girls night every second night it seems. She seems kind of controlling at times, and spoiled. I like her, she is beautiful and a lot of fun in the beginning. I tried to break up with her a few days ago, and she became so delerious and upset that I agreed to try again. I don't get it. After 4 weeks? To be that upset? What should I do? Do I have to break up with her in a meaner way? This girl definitely isn't the one for me, I know that much.
USMCHokie Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Been dating her for a month. I'm 33 she is 32. There has been no sex. NONE! Not even close really. We've talked about it, she knows im getting frustrated. She claims she doesn't know me well enough and that we haven't been on enough proper dates. I see this girl at least 4 times a week. Text or email, or talk on the phone everyday, all day. She also got very jealous when I had a boys night planned with my buddies. She has a girls night every second night it seems. She seems kind of controlling at times, and spoiled. I like her, she is beautiful and a lot of fun in the beginning. I tried to break up with her a few days ago, and she became so delerious and upset that I agreed to try again. I don't get it. After 4 weeks? To be that upset? What should I do? Do I have to break up with her in a meaner way? This girl definitely isn't the one for me, I know that much. This is the problem. Next time you break up with her, keep walking away. It doesn't even have to be in a meaner way. Just say you don't want to see her again. She'll probably throw another hissyfit, but why the hell should it bother you?! You're never going to see her again! Don't feel obligated to stick around just because she's butthurt that you don't want to date her. She sounds like a nutjob...LAUNCH...
TaraMaiden Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 She seems kind of controlling at times, and spoiled. ....I tried to break up with her a few days ago, and she became so delerious and upset that I agreed to try again. .....This girl definitely isn't the one for me, I know that much. She's not the one with the problem here. you are. Your problem is that you say one thing then do another. If you're going to walk - walk. Don't ping-pong and drive yourself crazy. If she's definitely not the one foer you.... what are you still hnaging around for? leave! Go! Git! walk the talk and shift on out. And don't ever look back. Leave her to her deliriousness and upset....I'm sure (as you imply) she has plenty of girl-buddies to lean on. After all, they seem a more urgent option to her than you are....
kickintheaz Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 prev posts say it all.. End it, delete her contact info and keep walking.... you don't want this dragging any further... But don't be surprised if there are follow up calls/txts/IMs to you... whatever you do do not respond in kind... cut the cord and let 'delete' become your reply to her..
zengirl Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Been dating her for a month. I'm 33 she is 32. There has been no sex. NONE! Not even close really. We've talked about it, she knows im getting frustrated. She claims she doesn't know me well enough and that we haven't been on enough proper dates. I see this girl at least 4 times a week. Text or email, or talk on the phone everyday, all day. She also got very jealous when I had a boys night planned with my buddies. She has a girls night every second night it seems. She seems kind of controlling at times, and spoiled. I like her, she is beautiful and a lot of fun in the beginning. I tried to break up with her a few days ago, and she became so delerious and upset that I agreed to try again. I don't get it. After 4 weeks? To be that upset? What should I do? Do I have to break up with her in a meaner way? This girl definitely isn't the one for me, I know that much. You don't have to be meaner. Just clearer. If you want to break up with her, break up with her. The myriad of issues you put in here make it clear (to me) that she is not solely at fault here, so realize that it's a combination of you AND her that is making this situation what it is. She has jealousy issues and perhaps control issues, and yeah, the way she reacted when you "broke up with her" (you didn't really, BTW) sounds not-so-good, but you have sex issues (if you feel the need to repeatedly ask for sex even after being turned down with a legitimate excuse that the girl is not ready, then I find that pretty lame), an inability to stick to what you do, and worst of all. . . You've been dating a girl you don't seem to like or respect. Why?
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