nixa Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I don't think that most women are like this, but every single woman my bf has dated is, and I find it very annoying that some women are so (in my opinion) disrespectful. In another thread I started I commented on one of my bf's exes who pitched a fit and deleted him from her friends on FB (she also did this another time a couple years ago, then requested him as a friend again). Both times that she did this, and also when my bf and I first started dating she would constantly comment on my bf's statuses, or his friend's statuses who were my mutual friends, but were not actual friends of hers (just acquaintances she met through bf). She only does this to get his attention. It is so childish. Another ex-gf, who had disappeared off the face of the earth (which was just fine with him) after they broke up 10 years ago started sending him FB messages and emails (she didn't have his phone number anymore) asking him to meet up with her, or that she had a dream about him last night, or that she misses him. ...But she didn't start doing this until he and I started dating. Another ex-gf sent him a message where she called him "hubby" and said that she's heartbroken now that she sees he's dating someone else. Since that message she's been trying to communicate more with him. Yet another ex of his started trying to be friends with bf's friends after he started dating me (and everyone is commenting on her behavior wondering what her deal is), and flirts with him and engages in needy pay-attention-to-ME behavior. Every single one of these women is either married or in a long-term relationship. Every single one of them had nothing to say to him and no reason to contact him until he and I started dating/got serious. I don't have a problem with how my bf has handled these situations. I just don't understand what the hell is wrong with these women and what they are thinking.
torranceshipman Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Wow, crazy girls. I guess the best thing you can do is ignore them and take the higher ground. At the end of the day you are his girlfriend and they aren't, and that's the important thing! I can relate - my fiance recently left his email open and I looked at it thinking it was mine (we use the same email provider) and there were a couple of stand out messages from his ex - she really wanted him back and had only got back in touch with him with all this crazy talk after she found about me. Anyway it transpired that he ignored her messages then blocked her, and also refused to add her on FB. I think was pretty cool. Maybe suggest your boyfriend does the same? The other small thing to say is whether he is encouraging it?-or whether some of them are simply being friendly?
kickintheaz Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 People want what they cannot have.... despite these girls being in 'happy' relationships they hear ex is suddenly happy and its not with them... prob depends on how things were with them, but maybe they are just looking to see can they provoke some reaction from him rather than trying to slide back into his life.. You're the bigger person here as is your boyf.. ignore, block, whatever it takes, it doesn't seem like its affecting your relationship which is great, don't let it!
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