Are these signs he is abusive? I am having second thoughts and getting a bit uneasy..

[OceanTropic]

First six months were great. Great sex, great fun, honest with each other, had our "freedom" went out with friends, no jealousy, no lies. Perfect.

 

Recently he has changed a lot.

 

1. When he gets upset he accuses me of random things (ex: your lying, your suspicious, you don't want me to have freedom etc.."

 

2. He has zero patience and always looses his temper over littlest things (he can joke around about other men hitting on me but the moment I do the same, he gets frustrated )

 

3. He gets angry and upset anytime I mention my parents (they disapprove of him).

 

4. He blames me for our arguments when he starts them. (Ex: He asks me if I want to go out or stay in, when I say I want to stay in, he tells me I am trying to control him by not letting him go out to see his friends, when clearly I was ready to go out but was honest when he asked me what I really wanted to do.)

 

5. He doesn't get physical when he is angry, he doesn't hit things or call me names, but he always blames me and even invents stories that never happened just to try and prove a point he doesn't have. (ex: He says I am jealous of other women being around him just because when he checks them out I look to see who he is checking out....and I never say anything because it doesn't bother me. When someone you are talking to turns their head and looks at something, you are curious and look too. Its automatic.)

 

Im beginning to think he has serious issues. I am going to dump him regardless, because I won't tolerate this, but I am curious if these are signs of an abusive guy...or just an idiot.

Edited July 22, 2010 by OceanTropic

[Sabali]

Oh, sounds like he could easily use you for a punching bag in the future. Why even care if you are going to leave him? Leaving him is the right thing to do. Now! Now I don't want to read some post a week from now stating that he hit you when you was supposed to have left him 10 years ago.