blackphoenix84 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Hello everyone, I am in the army but the girl of my dreams is a junior at my school which is far away almost 1000 miles. I know its illogical to be stuck on this one girl but I can't stop thinking about her. I really like her alot, its very frustrating. We never really dated we mostly would hangout in my room but we never had sex. I try to play it cool around her but on the inside i felt like a fool because she made me feel anxious and happy. I could flirt with other girls easily and felt very confident around them but I was not like that around her. Its like I can get other girls easy especially now but I think about this girl every day. I would give up all the women in the world to be with her in a heartbeat. I could never get a good read on her. She is secretive and does not express her emotions that much. I don't know how much I believe in the zodiac but she fits the Scorpio definition perfectly. I know in my mind I need to forget about her but my heart won't let me. She is going into the army too when she graduates, so I don't know life is complicated right now. She is the first girl that I liked not just for sex in over 3 years. I know i can have sex with alot of women but I really would rather date her, even if I had to wait years to have sex ( I don't believe this would happen just putting for emphasis) with her I wouldn't hesitate to do it. I'm sorry about the lengthy post but I'm considering making one last effort to date her. I know its a long shot but I know I will regret it for the rest of my life if I don't. Can you ladies give me some good advice, I know that I only have one shot so I want to make the best effort possible.
Patrice Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Are you in contact now? How long before you return to her vicinity? What kind of contact do you have now?
Author blackphoenix84 Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Well she's been in training for the past month as in out in the field training so she basically been cutoff from the world. But we mainly text eachother or message each other on facebook. She's 19 so she likes to text.
Patrice Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 How about getting a little flirty with those texts and facebook messages. Start there ... see what kind of response you get?
Sabali Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Hello everyone, I am in the army but the girl of my dreams is a junior at my school which is far away almost 1000 miles. She is secretive and does not express her emotions that much. I don't know how much I believe in the zodiac but she fits the Scorpio definition perfectly.. Enough said. You are fighting a war that you can't even win because the battlefield is on the other side of the galaxy and what you're fighting for doesn't express emotions. A woman that doesn't express emotions? That's like having a TV that doesn't show a picture but you insist on trying to watch it.
USMCHokie Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I'm not gonna lie...long distance relationships are tough as it is...but starting one out as long distance is even more difficult, if not impossible...not to mention that both of you are military at different points in your careers...I assume you're already commissioned and she's still a cadet...that's technically a no-no... You haven't established any foundation for a relationship, and with the distance, it doesn't look like it's going to be easy or even possible to establish that base...and you don't even know how she feels about you...because you never asked her out when you were both at school... Bottom line: move on, this doesn't look promising...at all...
Author blackphoenix84 Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 I did especially before she went to training. Texting is cool but its hard to get a true read. I can't really tell if i'm making progress or if she just being nice. She did agree to be my date for one of our dinners and I feel confident that if I was still there she would go on a date with me again.
Author blackphoenix84 Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 I assume you're already commissioned and she's still a cadet...that's technically a no-no... You haven't established any foundation for a relationship, and with the distance, it doesn't look like it's going to be easy or even possible to establish that base...and you don't even know how she feels about you...because you never asked her out when you were both at school... Bottom line: move on, this doesn't look promising...at all... I think your right about the relationship. Actually its not against the rules. Plenty of cadets date officers, I know this first hand have seen it literally dozens of times. Cadets are technically junior officers. she was apprehensive about dating because i was leaving.
USMCHokie Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I think your right about the relationship. Actually its not against the rules. Plenty of cadets date officers, I know this first hand have seen it literally dozens of times. Cadets are technically junior officers. she was apprehensive about dating because i was leaving. Sorry, but this is inaccurate. Cadets are not junior officers. I have never heard that nonsense before. When you sign on the dotted line to get into ROTC, you are enlisting in the armed forces. While you are in any sort of summer field training, you are paid as enlisted (in the Marine Corps, it'd be E-5). You do not become an officer until you have commissioned. Cadet-officer relationships are fraternization (UCMJ Art. 134). It's just that some services, ROTC units, etc. do not enforce it as strictly, if at all. But back to the topic at hand, if she was apprehensive about dating before, it simply meant that she wasn't interested enough to date you. If someone is truly interested in dating you, nothing is going to stop them, regardless of any circumstances that may arise such as distance.
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