Tedster Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I need some input... I love this girl we dated for 3 months and things were great no complains or anyting but til one day she left me for her husband she is currently going through a divorce with and he is a drug dealer and started abuing drugs again didnt call or talk to me a week later saying things went too fast...and felt that she needed to give her family a second chance and it torn me up hearing this. well 3 months ago he went to jail for selling drugs and now she felt that i was a great bf and thiknks that **** should go slow for now well this is her background shes 26 has 3 nice kids i get along with. and is going through a divorce as we speak and will be final in a couple weeks. well her husband is bad news a drug dealer that lives with mom and dad and gets in trouble by the law all the time. well he has been currently in jail for 3 moinths and is looking at 10 years. well she says that she has too much going on right now which i understand she is going through a drug rehab and conseling. cas her husband got her into drugs and she wants to be a better mom. but she says that things went too fast and she wants to take things slow. which is cool to me but 3 months has gone by and she doesnt like that i try to give her a hug or a kiss after we hang out. and she gets mad. well i dnt understand y a hug is too much to ask for? but i try not to get upset over it so i take it as a friend situtation. but i wanna help her out cas i love her dearly so about 2 weeks ago she wanted me to give her a ride to the rehab center for abusers i had no problem doing it problem is that i work early in the mornnig and cant give her a ride. so i loaned her my new car to drive there and now that she is going there for 2 minths shes turned around a 100% better person even before we were dating. which is great im glad she is being a better mom. she says she cares for me but sometimes it doesnt seem like it. i get along with the whole family including grandparents and i am good friends with her parents very well too. i dont know what to do i really care for her alot but it sucks not being able to give her a hug. now background on me iam 21 years old, have a full time job at general motors just bought a new car, i farm and race oval track on the side and have no kids. have my own house. she has this family friend that just got out of prison and he was a drug dealer as well. now she doenst really want to hang out with me anymore and i asked her parents about him and hes just a friend i know im over reacting but do you think im stupid for trying to make this work with her? im confused and dont knwo what to think about it all... help please anyone have advice or has the same situation? thanks
USMCHokie Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Good lord...RUN...FAST...AND FAR AWAY!!! But even if the circumstances were slightly less ridiculous, my general rule is that if a girl ever suddenly asks to slow things down after the dating/relationship has been going well for a while, even in the early stages, it's an insta-LAUNCH... It's just their way of detaching from the relationship before breaking it off completely...or they are not in the right place to be in a relationship...either way, there's no more relationship and I'm better off...
stuck with eharmony Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 There are a lot of warning signs. Its obvious that you really care for her but my advice would be to break it off. She clearly has issues that she has to take care of and doesn't want you involved. I'm sorry dude.
iammolly Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 walk away.....fast. All I see are huge HUGE red flags that guarantee no happiness for you in this scenario.
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