spookie Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 BF and I have been planning on going camping this upcoming weekend for about 3 weeks. It just so happens that his Bday is next Monday, so it's also kind of his birthday weekend. He is starting grad school in a few weeks, and we are both really busy. If we don't go this weekend, the possibility of camping this year is gone. I am a notoriously poor planner, and have neglected to so much as crack open the study manual for an exam I have coming up at the beginning of August. If I start studying right now (and study through all the weekends till the test) I have a shot at passing. If I go camping, I don't. If I don't pass the exam, I have to wait till November to retake it. If I pass, I get a big raise. What should I do?
Confused100 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I think you should start studying now and have a shot at passing. You'll probably kick yourself later if you don't put in the effort and have to do it all over again. It seems like if your boyfriend cared about you, he'd understand. Maybe just give him a special birthday dinner?
Author spookie Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 I think you should start studying now and have a shot at passing. You'll probably kick yourself later if you don't put in the effort and have to do it all over again. It seems like if your boyfriend cared about you, he'd understand. Maybe just give him a special birthday dinner? I wish I could gauge how much he wants to go. We've spent every weekend together for the past couple of months, so I suspect he may need some space to get his s!ht together, too. However, I don't want to neglect him by flaking out on his birthday.
Sabali Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 BF and I have been planning on going camping this upcoming weekend for about 3 weeks. It just so happens that his Bday is next Monday, so it's also kind of his birthday weekend. He is starting grad school in a few weeks, and we are both really busy. If we don't go this weekend, the possibility of camping this year is gone. I am a notoriously poor planner, and have neglected to so much as crack open the study manual for an exam I have coming up at the beginning of August. If I start studying right now (and study through all the weekends till the test) I have a shot at passing. If I go camping, I don't. If I don't pass the exam, I have to wait till November to retake it. If I pass, I get a big raise. What should I do? This is a no brainer. Put your life on hold and those books are your new boyfriends. You can dump them after the exam. The time you are spending here could be used to study. Bye!
Confused100 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I wish I could gauge how much he wants to go. We've spent every weekend together for the past couple of months, so I suspect he may need some space to get his s!ht together, too. However, I don't want to neglect him by flaking out on his birthday. I understand. But based on how you've described these exams, they're very important for your career! You can still spend a nice evening with him on his birthday, but if I were in his shoes, I'd totally understand why the camping trip had to be canceled! You said he's going to graduate school, so I'm sure he knows all to well how important exams are, since he took the GRE (or some equivalent).
Author spookie Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 I understand. But based on how you've described these exams, they're very important for your career! You can still spend a nice evening with him on his birthday, but if I were in his shoes, I'd totally understand why the camping trip had to be canceled! You said he's going to graduate school, so I'm sure he knows all to well how important exams are, since he took the GRE (or some equivalent). Not only are they important, but my company pays for them and gives me paid time off to study. So by failing, I wouldn't just be letting down myself. Thanks for the input everyone, I just wanted to make sure I was not crossing some line by telling him I can no longer go.
Hopeful30 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Well think about it this way. What's worse? Failing and waiting until November? Or not going camping this year?
Author spookie Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Well think about it this way. What's worse? Failing and waiting until November? Or not going camping this year? I don't know.
Author spookie Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 So, I just talked to him, and he was completely understanding.
Els Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Really, Spookie, what did you expect?? That he'd say, "No, I want you to fail just so I can have my birthday camping trip"??
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