xpaperxcutx Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 So guy I went on a date two weeks ago still haven't contacted me. I'm pissed. Simply because I give him the benefit of the doubt that he said he was busy. I honestly don't want anything to do with him but I have this urge to just text him to tell him off and lose my number. Yes, as stupid as it sounds, I know I'll feel better if I have the last say. Yay, or nay?
Allisha Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 He's gonna think you're crazy and think he made a good decision by not contacting you again.
sugarmomma Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Nay. I think he already lost the number so to speak. Forget about him. Don't waste a bit of energy cause it will let him know you care when you shouldn't.
mixwell Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I agree, at this point if you contacted him and told him off it would only make you look stupid.. I say just ignore it and don't contact him and move on.. You need to just brush it off and move on..
Confused100 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Just move on. No reason to invest any more emotions into something so inconsequential. It sounds like you two only had one date anyway?
Patrice Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Agreed .. don't call. I don't know why people do this stuff .. what happened to honesty?
Star Gazer Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Nay, nay, nay!!! Plus, his silence will really be the last word...and that will only irritate you more.
stuck with eharmony Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I'm going to agree with everybody else here and say hold the urge not to do it. Nothing positive can result from this.
kalikula Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Don't text him that!!! If he ever eventually texts/calls you just act like you have no idea who he is.
TaraMaiden Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 yeah, go ahead, do it!! (Actually, I agree with everyone else. I just thought it was getting monotonous, and I'd change the record....!) Of course you DON'T contact him! How needy/desperate do you want to look? In time...? who knows.....? He may well touch base with you. In which case, you reply..."I'm sorry,.... who?":confused:
stace79 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Another vote nay. Like someone else said, his ignoring even your psycho pissed off text will let HIM really have the "last word".
Jilly Bean Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Ummm... texting a guy to lose your number who hasn't contacted you in two weeks is pretty nuts. It's like you're trying to blow him off, when he's already done the rejecting. I know it hurts, hon. As I know you don't like to open yourself up too much. But, let it go. Don't give him a chance to think he was right in not seeing you again.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 I resent the psycho comments... But yeah, I'm blowing off steam just kicking and punching bags at the gym. I suppose I should have done this earlier when he told me he would contact me when his schedule permits. I would have just told him to save his time and go s--- himself. Anyways I'm upset because I have never had this happen to me before. I have had guys reject me but never so non- confrontational as a bait and switch scenario. I don't even have his number even if I want to spam his inbox. I'd already deleted it.
bayouboi Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Don't give him the ego boost nor the story to tell his friends. Another vote for nay. You're gonna do it anyhow, though, aren't you?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Don't give him the ego boost nor the story to tell his friends. Another vote for nay. You're gonna do it anyhow, though, aren't you? Yeah... when I'm drunk. Nope, I don't have his number anymore and thinking about it, I'll really feel like an idiot if I texted him.
Jilly Bean Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 I resent the psycho comments... But yeah, I'm blowing off steam just kicking and punching bags at the gym. I suppose I should have done this earlier when he told me he would contact me when his schedule permits. I would have just told him to save his time and go s--- himself. Anyways I'm upset because I have never had this happen to me before. I have had guys reject me but never so non- confrontational as a bait and switch scenario. I don't even have his number even if I want to spam his inbox. I'd already deleted it. Did you say resent, or resemble? I kid, I kid. You know I love you, X. We've all been there. We all want to have the final word and the upper hand. But, let's go back on this guy. You knew he was lukewarm before the date, and still went out with him. So, his behavior now shouldn't be surprising. Just means next time a guy isn't totally up your butt before a date, I wouldn't give him a chance to ever really get up your butt, ya know?
Diezel Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Didn't you already post about this guy and got pretty much the same advice already?
SadandConfusedWA Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 The way I deal with this is to delete the guy's number right after the date. I have many psycho moments and this way either the guy will contact me (in which case I will have his number again) or it's all over forever.
Pink Cupcakes Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 It's the old "I'll call" line but you can't take it seriously after a first date. you are holding him to those exact words and you only went out with him once. "I'll contact you when my schedule permits" is actually code for "I'm not interested, but thanks for your time." It sucks, but do you really want a guy to tell you on the first date "I don't want to date you again, good-bye"? Don't take the "I'll contact you/call you" thing seriously. A guy who seriously likes you will text you the same night to let you know how great the date was, at the very least the next day.
USMCHokie Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 It sucks, but do you really want a guy to tell you on the first date "I don't want to date you again, good-bye"? Is there really a tactful way for a guy, or even a girl, to do this...? I was on a first date once that I couldn't wait to end...simply said, "Well, it was nice to meet you, take care..." And that was that...
Pink Cupcakes Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 That's a very good, honest line. I would definitely get the message though, Chokie.
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