Gattica Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I am not sure what to do, if anything. I was seeing a coworker of mine and it ended last month. Well, he knows that I was really hurt over how things ended. I let him know that I wasn't upset about things being over and that I agreed that we weren't compatible, but I didn't like the way he treated me with a total lack of respect. He claims he didn't want it to end and he just wants to get along now. I completely agreed that we need to get along and keep things professional. I have no problem being professional and civil towards one another. I asked him, when we first ended things, for him to no longer call me by the nickname and to keep things strictly work related. He agreed to do so and for the most part, he had been doing just that. Since last week, he started calling me by the nickname again and is making small talk and making sure to say hello, wave, and smile at me when leaving. He doesn't do that with other coworkers and he used to always do that with me. It is really starting to make me uncomfortable. One reason we did not continue dating is because I found out he was lying. He is acting like he did before things went down the tubes. I don't know how to handle that. It makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't want to bring it up again because I don't want to expend the energy and possibly having things become even more uncomfortable. I just want to do my work and go home. At the same time, I don't want him to think I am ok with how things went down or that I am interested in any way. I don't know if allowing him to go back to the way it used to be is giving off that impression. What should I do, if anything? Today I found myself just giving in and allowing it to go back to the old routine and actually going back into the old routine as well. It is very easy to do because it is naturally the way I am with my coworkers. I know neither one of us is interested in the other anymore. Is it ok to just let things be? I will bring up him not calling me by the nickname if he continues to do so, but keep smiling, waving, and making small talk?
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