mogul Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 A little over a year ago, I was in a month long workshop for work and was in a confusing situation. There was a woman there who I noticed and seemed to have noticed me as well. For the duration of the workshop, we would sit close to each other and other subtle signs of attraction such as starring and smiles when we caught each other as juvenile as that sounds. I later learn through a mutual friend that she was in a relationship at the time. I decided not to act on it because it was work related, but ended up getting her number on the last day. I asked for it under the pretenses that it was work related, though it was clearly not and she knew it. We talked a few times over the phone and clicked very well. Clearly we are really attracted to each other and very flirty in our conversations. We set up a few meetings but she would always reschedule and seemed genuine. I was annoyed this happened more than once and ignored her after. Would it be weird if I was to out of the blue add her on a networking site and how do i proceed from there? Ladies, how would you react if someone you barely knew but felt you had a connection with popped up in your inbox or wanted to friend you? Thanks.
denise_xo Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 A little over a year ago, I was in a month long workshop for work and was in a confusing situation. There was a woman there who I noticed and seemed to have noticed me as well. For the duration of the workshop, we would sit close to each other and other subtle signs of attraction such as starring and smiles when we caught each other as juvenile as that sounds. I later learn through a mutual friend that she was in a relationship at the time. I decided not to act on it because it was work related, but ended up getting her number on the last day. I asked for it under the pretenses that it was work related, though it was clearly not and she knew it. We talked a few times over the phone and clicked very well. Clearly we are really attracted to each other and very flirty in our conversations. We set up a few meetings but she would always reschedule and seemed genuine. I was annoyed this happened more than once and ignored her after. Would it be weird if I was to out of the blue add her on a networking site and how do i proceed from there? Ladies, how would you react if someone you barely knew but felt you had a connection with popped up in your inbox or wanted to friend you? Thanks. If she's still in a relationship, don't do it - it's just going to backfire and eventually create lots of issues/mayhem for both of you. If she's single, then I don't think it's weird and you don't have anything to loose IMO (unless the two of you need to interact over work stuff). Then I would just write a nice, fun message saying something like 'would be nice to see you again' and so on, and just see what happens. If she really wants to see you again, she'll be happy. She might not want to see you given that she's already cancelled appointments with you, but there's only one way to find out. The worst thing that can happen is that she doesn't accept the SN invitation, right??
Allisha Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 If she's still in a relationship, don't do it - it's just going to backfire and eventually create lots of issues/mayhem for both of you. OP, PLEASE listen to this!
Enchanted Girl Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 I agree with the above two posts. Also, how long has it been since you last spoke to her? I know you met her a year ago, but that's not the last time you two spoke. The longer it's been, the weirder it might seem for you to contact her.
Author mogul Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 She is now single i believe, and last spoken 8-9 months ago.
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