nineyearsgone79 Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Hey guys.. so i haven't written in a while. Basically to sum things up i am now 10 months out of a 9 year relationship .. which was long distance and he ended via email completely breaking my heart. I was told to not contact him and he refused to contact me back to find out what happened... so I still feel unresolved about that in many ways. So I started seeing this new guy ... I wasn't all that attracted to him initially but thought I'd give him a shot. So we have been dating for the past month and a half or so. The more i come to get to know him I find myself divided about him. I find very little in common with him... all the things that I found in my ex... common music, movies, art, sense of humor. I also find him to be oddly and exceptionally cheap about things. For instance he has never treated me on a date. We discussed buying condoms and earlier in the day bought lunch and he told me if i bought his lunch he'd buy the condoms. Is that odd? I know i have been out of the dating loop a while but I never really recall my ex making me buy condoms!?? So this is prolly tmi but I'll continue. So we attempted to use the condoms but he couldn't maintain things so to speak long enough to actually DO anything. We tried two times and nada...down down down. So tonight i discussed making taking a break from giving him oral sex. As currently he has me do it for an hour and a half and i thought maybe it is desensitizing him. Plus honestly I'm a bit tired of it... but he threw a little fit about it. Asking why i'm punishing him and that he really enjoys it and doesn't want to see it go away. He's also said other things that have grated on me .... for instance remarking "the water bill was going to be high this month"... because i stayed over and bathed 4 times over the month. Anyway i guess I just am a bit at loss over this matter. For some reason I can't pull away from this guy that i'm not really all that into and feel a bit demeaned by. I don't know why i'm letting him treat me like this ... any thoughts? I'm just not sure how to proceed and why i even go over to his place anymore ... I just lay in bed at night at his place and make tears thinking about my ex that I miss terribly. Thanks Guys!... :/
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Anyway i guess I just am a bit at loss over this matter. For some reason I can't pull away from this guy that i'm not really all that into and feel a bit demeaned by. I don't know why i'm letting him treat me like this ... any thoughts? I'm just not sure how to proceed and why i even go over to his place anymore ... I just lay in bed at night at his place and make tears thinking about my ex that I miss terribly. Thanks Guys!... :/ First... this guy is a sh**bird. I don't think he appreciates you much, though I understand that I'm only hearing your side. In regards to why you have not left him... because the dumping you just took smacked your self esteem down really low. Until you feel worthy of something better.... and I believe that you are... your going to continue to settle for poor treatment.
kalikula Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Wtf?!?! You are just letting him control you by keeping your self esteem low. He sounds like a douche. Don't give him oral for an hour and a half if he pressures you into it and you don't want to! (That's a ridiculously long time LOL) Stop seeing him and work on your self esteem.
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