How can I iniate and be more aggressive?

[WildWildWest]

I have always been the shy and timid when it comes to sex.. I guess because my last partners had been the aggressive ones and always iniate everthing... well the new guy I am with always has to be the one to iniate everything all the time and I think it makes him feel like I'm really not into him... I want to change all that.. but its gonna be hard for me to do... usually when i go over his house to spend time with him I just sit next to him on the couch and talk for a bit.. not makin any moves or even sitting close.. he is the one who always has to make the first move.. well this time i wanna spice it up a bit, but idk how to go about it.. I have the idea that instead of coming over and sitting next to him on the couch and talkin I wanna come in the door.. sit on his lap and just start kissing him.. not even say hello... then i wanna tell him that i want him now and me be the one to lead him to the bedroom instead of him... and then after that.. i dont know what to do I want to show him that I really am into him... and make it more interesting where hes not the one doing all the work.. so what i need are some ideas... should i undress him and push him on the bed? HEEEELP!!!!!

[MisUnderstanding]

You don't have to switch between not doing anything and pushing him onto the bed. Try starting slow. Move closer to him on the couch, touch his body, kiss him on the neck, read up on foreplay, seriously. It's not all about just shoving your hands down his pants and grabbing "it".

[kalikula]

I totally agree with moving slow.

 

Most guys like to be affectionate and be touched! Start with sitting closer to him on the couch (Maybe sit in his lap or rest your legs in his lap), look at him, kiss him (or on the cheek), kiss his neck, that kinda thing.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Be sure to go to your other, identical post, where I responded with some inspiration.