hockeyman80 Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Would a woman want them randomly or prefer to have them just on special occasions?
Sabali Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 They will lose their sensitivity if you give them all of the time. Stick with romantic holidays and anniversaries/super special occasions.
zengirl Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I don't think anyone will ever get mad at you for buying them flowers, unless they've already told you they hate them/are allergic/something. Personally, I'm not a fan of cut flowers. (I don't understand giving the dead remnants of something perfectly healthy we pulled out of the ground as a gift. And, really, I just never know what to do with them.) I actually don't care for roses at all. If a guy who didn't know that bought me roses, either for an occasion or randomly, I'd still see it as a lovely gesture. I think romantic gestures are best done spontaneously and with more creativity than birthdays/anniversaries/Greeting Card Holidays/etc. But then all my relationships, we made our own little holidays. I'm weird like that.
cabarc1 Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 We like them randomly! My ex used to send them to me every now and then just to put a smile on my face. Those were the best
Twix Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 (edited) If she's a fan of flowers (and receiving them), giving them at a random, unexpected time would definitely be a nice surprise. I've never gone wrong with that situation and it can even get you major "points" (if you choose to look at it that way) with a cleverly-timed flower purchase when she just happens to be in a down sort of mood for whatever reason (bad day at work, etc). In fact, the cleverly-timed but totally unexpected situations are the ones that seem to get the best reaction, even moreso than the holidays or special occassions (because those are expected). The trick is to remain totally unpredictable. When we're talking about random, non-occassion flower-giving, less often and unexpected is key, at least from my experience. Edited July 20, 2010 by Twix
Kinder-Horror Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Personally, I 100% prefer them randomly Randomly, doesnt mean all the time. As Sabali said, if you give them often, it wont be as exciting... I just think it is much more romantic. Birthday's, etc are expected... so getting them then is nice... but it feels like we're getting them for that reason (which we are) - where as random flowers say that you were thinking of us because you wanted to
2sure Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Randomly. Getting flowers when they are advertised everywhere to remind you to get them for Valetines Day , Sweetest Day, any day...just is not quite as thoughtful as sending them randomly.
Rifareal Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 just give on special occasions, sometimes try to pretend you forgot and maybe leave it outside her doors. Try, it works..
carhill Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Most of my flower-bearing plants, like the rose bushes I've had for 20+ years, are hardly blooming perennials. Flowers cut off of them for decorations, gifts and romantic intents do not cause the plant to die. On roses, they are cut in a way which promotes a new flower to grow at the same spot. A compatible woman will perhaps be interested in the horticulture as well as the romance.
stace79 Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Would a woman want them randomly or prefer to have them just on special occasions? I like to be surprised once in awhile. It is also nice to do other little random things: make a CD of songs she likes or songs that remind you of hersend her a written card or letter (email/text/FB is so impersonal it's nice to get real snail mail once in awhile)get an affordable frame from Target or Michaels and put in a picture of you two There are so many cute little random things you can do that don't cost much. I always appreciate those gestures.
2sure Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 The sweetest flowers I have ever received were when a man picked me up and presented me with a few cut from his own garden.
Gattica Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Random. It doesn't have to be flowers. Like another poster said, it could be a CD, a book, a glass frog (I collect those!) or whatnot. When in a relationship, I love to randomly surprise my guy with small gifts. It makes him feel special and appreciated and it makes me feel good as well.
carhill Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 The sweetest flowers I have ever received were when a man picked me up and presented me with a few cut from his own garden. Nice segue to correct my prior posting that the plants are *hardy* (not 'hardly') blooming perennials, meaning they can survive winters in my locale. BTW, neither stbx nor 'friend' placed much value in the gift of flowers. In fact, few of the women I've dated have. Prior, I saw that as a challenge. Now, I accept it as another aspect of compatibility. More work for the people-picker
TuesGirl Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Both! But if I had to pick...definitely randomly. My ex also used to do this, and I freaking loved it, and I am not a flowery girly girl at all. I just thought it was so sweet. I also agree it doesn't even have to be flowers. One time, he knew I had a long day at work and was coming home late and I came home to find a cold 12 pack of beer on my doorstep with a cute little note. Exactly what I needed...
electricity Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 (edited) Definitely randomly. It's nice way to say "I'm always thinking about you" instead of "Greeting card companies are telling me to think of you so I'm thinking of you now." It doesn't have to be a dozen red roses though. I prefer if he's taken time to find out my favorite flower. And while it doesn't have to be flowers (I def also love it if he gives me something I've been wanting), I do like randomly getting flowers as well. Edited July 20, 2010 by electricity
zengirl Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Most of my flower-bearing plants, like the rose bushes I've had for 20+ years, are hardly blooming perennials. Flowers cut off of them for decorations, gifts and romantic intents do not cause the plant to die. On roses, they are cut in a way which promotes a new flower to grow at the same spot. Oh, I know they don't cause the plant to die! But the guy isn't giving the plant. I just mean I'd rather have a potted plant in my home than flowers that are already cut off from their source of life. (The flowers themselves are dead.) Both my parents garden extensively, so I grew up with plants. I love plants. I love flowers on the plants... just not cut flowers.
alphamale Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Would a woman want them randomly or prefer to have them just on special occasions? chicks want flowers all the time
skydiveaddict Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 chicks want flowers all the time very true.........
t0ri Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 An old boyfriend of mine used to, out of the blue, bring me ice cream and flowers! I loved that. I prefer them randomly, and not much at all for a special occasion.
alphamale Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 An old boyfriend of mine used to, out of the blue, bring me ice cream and flowers! i don't think i've ever given a chick ice cream
Pink Cupcakes Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Most of my flower-bearing plants, like the rose bushes I've had for 20+ years, are hardly blooming perennials. Flowers cut off of them for decorations, gifts and romantic intents do not cause the plant to die. On roses, they are cut in a way which promotes a new flower to grow at the same spot. A compatible woman will perhaps be interested in the horticulture as well as the romance. Well good luck with that plan, lol.
Sabali Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 You can give those flowers randomly if you want to. Every woman will tell you to give them randomly. Every single one! Do an experiment. Give them randomly. I would be surprised if by the time you get to round 6 of random flower giving and those flowers even see a vase at that point.
that girl Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Every woman will tell you to give them randomly. Every single one! Do an experiment. Give them randomly. I would be surprised if by the time you get to round 6 of random flower giving and those flowers even see a vase at that point. Do you think women will start throwing out flowers if they get them too much?
skydiveaddict Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Do you think women will start throwing out flowers if they get them too much? I dont know but I got my gf flowers after I got home from the war and she broke up with me two weeks later
deux ex machina Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 (edited) Would a woman want them randomly or prefer to have them just on special occasions? I would want them when/if he felt like giving them. There is something about not expecting it that makes it memorable in its own way. Going about the day, having no idea that he did something sweet and thoughtful to surprise you - just because he wants to. Edited July 21, 2010 by deux ex machina
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