Intergalactic Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 hi everyone! haven't been on here in a long time (since my break up two years ago!) but i desperately need some help.. ok, this is slightly embarrassing since i'm 22 years old and i feel like this is stuff a 16 year old asks about, but i really have no idea how to tell if someone is interested in me. i'm asking because i really like this guy and i want to make a move or get closer to him or something, but i have real confidence issues (read: self esteem) and i never want to do anything with anyone until i'm literally positive they like me, and even then i worry that i'm just seeing things i want to see because i like him. however, i'm trying really hard not to listen to that little voice inside my head asking why someone would ever like me in that way. so the details are this: i'm a university student, he's my tutor. he's young, two years older than me, and is just there to help the lab technicians with their jobs and to answer questions the students might have, since the lecturer doesn't stick around to do that. he often talks to me, not just about uni stuff, and often is sort of... hanging around when i talk to the people i sit with in the lab, like fixing stuff up around us etc and then i'll say something and he'll look at me and laugh at what i said etc. today in lab, he came and helped me and my partner take my blood. our glucose meter wasn't working properly and then when he fixed it, we tried to get more blood out of the prick we'd already made. he said "you should hold your hand down" and then took my hand, pulled it down, and then held it there for a while while he got the blood flowing. then my partner took the blood... and he kept holding my hand. then he seemed to realise that he was still holding my hand and sort of dropped it suddenly and cleared his throat a bit, mumbled "sorry" and quickly left. later on, he came by to check how we were going and i didn't even realise he was there behind me until he laughed at a joke i made about the glucose meter reading "error" because i was an alien.. and then i blushed and smiled at him and he winked at me before moving on. after that, i had to go and drink a glucose/water solution, and when i was outside i picked up the cup with the powdered glucose in it, and sort of eyed it and sniffed it because i wasn't sure about it at all. i then looked up and around and caught him looking at me, and then he grinned at me and didn't look away. every time i looked up, he was watching me. (or at least i thought so, but then i always tell myself that i'm being stupid and he wouldn't be) when we got back inside, my friend turned to me and said "well he just couldn't stop looking at you out there, huh?!". he then talked a bit more about our findings, and then we did some work of our own.. whilst most of the class left, a few friends and i stayed to finish our study questions and he kept hanging around our table. at the end, i got my stuff together but was too shy to say goodbye - i didn't even look at him before we left. when we got outside, one of my friends said "you're an idiot" and when i asked why, she told me that he had kept looking over at us as we were getting ready to leave, and so she smiled at him and though he smiled back, he kept looking at me as though waiting for me to say goodbye (which obviously i never did). ANYWAY, i know these things are rather small but they happen often in class, he often looks at me whilst talking to the rest of the class and seems to always be close to where i am, offering help or talking or something, and often i catch him looking at me when i glance at him and instead of turning away, he smiles or laughs or winks at me. even though these are good signs (i know that much), is he just being friendly? or is he just being my tutor? i don't think he is like that with anyone else, i haven't noticed it (and i do look!) but even though i feel like he is different/flirtier with me, my head always tells me that i'm being stupid and that there's no way he could be interested in me. obviously i feel like a bit of an idiot, i should know these things but i'm just so lost on all these "signs" or if signs from the opposite sex to let you know they're interested even exist! please, somebody shed some light? ps sorry for the tl;dr post
The Paper Knight Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 this post reads like the start of a classic romantic novel, where both teacher and student fall in love, but realise they can never be together, because the teacher cannot risk abusing his position of power and losing his job. very entertaining read lol. do I have any advice? no I don't.
Author Intergalactic Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 oh man, i really didn't mean for it to sound that way! haha, i am being totally serious in this post as well, i am really quite lovesick
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