robdrm32 Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 Have you ever felt pity for someone who screwed you over? Odd question but recently I got back with an ex that I was sure had cheated on me the first time around. We talked, she denied and I tried to move on with it but eventually I couldn't. So long story short we were arguing outside my house about who had been calling her, I knew she was lying so I said either come clean and we go inside or just go home. She broke down crying hysterically like a child. I felt bad but stuck my ground, and eventually she admitted she was lying (shocker). So eventually she pulls the disappearing act again, and I've been thinking lately, just how sad it is that someone just can't be honest. I think about how she was crying so hard over something that SHE created. She has a pattern of cheating from what I can tell, and I'm just left thinking of how sad it is she can't share any real emotional attachment with someone. Her father left her mom when she was like 7 and wasn't in her life for a while so part of me thinks that has a lot to do with her inability to commit and feel. Partly a rant but i'm wondering if i'm the only one who looks back at an ex and feels a pity for their inability to feel true love/emotions.?
Feelin Frisky Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 Nah nah, nah nah, nah nah nah nah, hey hey hey go-od bye Nah nah, nah nah, nah nah nah nah, hey hey hey go-od bye Nah nah, nah nah, nah nah nah nah, hey hey hey go-od bye
Woggle Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 Tha hatred for my ex has turned into pity. I can't believe the mess she has made of her life. She pushed the self destruct button and turned it up to ten.
kalikula Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 I can't say I really feel pity for my exes... More than anything I just feel so glad I am out of their dramatic messes! (Mainly my 1st ex). Actually, I feel pity for my second ex. He is a sweet guy but he just can't seem to get his life together and it makes me sad... He'd rather play WoW all day than get a job (He's been looking for over a year!) Yet somehow he manages to keep getting gfs
joedavies1987 Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 At first it would be hard to pity, but overtime when you see how much of a mess they are making of themselves and there next relationships, it can easily turn into pity... Do you not ever feel the urge to help them though?
txsilkysmoothe Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 Yes I feel pity for a number of people who have done me wrong. People have to live with their lies and the other wrongs they commit against others. It may not be obvious, but they are ashamed and can't forever avoid facing the pain they have caused.
Sabali Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 The only thing I pity is the fool. I pity the fool- On a more serious note, a person has to take responsibility for their actions despite their past. We have to stand up and take responsibility for our actions. Many, many people have had hard lives, it doesn't give us a f**k someone over for free card. I feel pity for those who feel pity for people who do pitiful things to others.
phineas Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 Yes I feel pity for a number of people who have done me wrong. People have to live with their lies and the other wrongs they commit against others. It may not be obvious, but they are ashamed and can't forever avoid facing the pain they have caused. similar towards my almost ex-wife. Except 3 yrs later & she still really hasn't realized what she did. She is still re-writing our history together. we were together 7yrs so her problems being my problems was a hard habit to break. I still THINK about offering to help her with things when she feels the need to tell me her problems when we exchange the kids. but then I decide she's the OM's problem & I stop myself.
sugarmomma Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 I feel sorry for people who have an inability to be honest. Its so much easier to tell the truth since lies require a person to remember a lot of details. I consider myself to be one of the most honest people I know when in a relationship. I have also experienced feeling weird because I wasn't into the whole lying and game playing but then I remember that liars lose in the end. They really shortchange themselves and end up with very superficial relationships. If things don't work out, I like to walk away saying that I was the best person that I could be.
bobdole Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I can feel some pity for how bad they screwed up their lives but I feel the "product of enviroment" argument is shaky. I'm not saying it doesn't have anything to do with it, but there are plenty of people out there that have had crappy lives that lead a good moral life. So I have a harder time feeling any pity on that path.
Recommended Posts