mortensorchid Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 About three months ago, I was in contact with someone from Match. We had exchanged a few emails through the sight, then moved to the phone. We had arranged to meet, per the ad he said he was divorced, early 40s with one child. Then he called and canceled because he said he wanted to watch a basketball game on TV that night. I said alright, he did not reschedule. He kept sending all these texts saying he wanted to see another photo of me. I finally sent one after nearly 10 messages in one day of badgering, and immediately regretted it. I sent him a photo of me head on, it was not racy or provocative in any way, it was a headshot of me right after a haircut. He just sent another text afterwards saying "Thanks", and then never heard another word from him again. I went to his profile on the sight, he had removed his picture. I blocked him, deciding there was something odd about this and I didn't want to find out what it was. Then over Memorial Day weekend, I get a voice mail message from him saying "Hey I was wondering how you were doing and wanted to know if you wanted to get together". I did not return the call. Then, within the last 20 minutes, the phone rings. I did not recognize the number, I picked it up and he said "Hey remember me? This is ___ from Match, we were talking a few months ago?". I said "Oh ... Right I remember." He said "DO you want to get together sometime?", I said politely "No thank you". He said "What?! HOW COME?!?" and sounded really angry with me. I hung up on him. What a psycho!
counterman Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 Wow, if he keeps going like that... you know what to do. Maybe he has nothing else better to do?
Author mortensorchid Posted July 18, 2010 Author Posted July 18, 2010 I think he has nothing else to do, maybe he rounds up unsuspecting women online all over the place and bothers them all the time. I wouldn't put it past him that he has this racket going on all over town if not further than that.
Gallaxia Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 Wow! Imagine- this is all happening at the beginning! On coordinating a possible meet up. On to something more promising & stable.
Serenitynow Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 Because sometimes persistence pays off. I know plenty of married couples, that got that way by the guy being very overbearing and not taking NO for an answer. I do not agree with hounding a girl like that, but since some women give in, some guys will continue to do it. .
zengirl Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 Because sometimes persistence pays off. I know plenty of married couples, that got that way by the guy being very overbearing and not taking NO for an answer. I do not agree with hounding a girl like that, but since some women give in, some guys will continue to do it. . I know some persistence stories, but none like this, where the dude went all "What?!? HOW COME!" about it (and this was after months later when he blew her off first). Do you really know happily married couples like that?
brokendream Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 What made it weird is him hounding the OP for pictures and not commenting....arranging dates and cancelling. Then phoning out of the blue months later and expecting a good reception
Bogo123 Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 Because sometimes persistence pays off. I know plenty of married couples, that got that way by the guy being very overbearing and not taking NO for an answer. I do not agree with hounding a girl like that, but since some women give in, some guys will continue to do it. . Exactly. Many guys lose out by giving up too quickly, when the girl was actually interested but wanted him to chase and wasn't going to be the aggressor. Women lose out as well in these cases.
Chicago_Guy Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 Exactly. Many guys lose out by giving up too quickly, when the girl was actually interested but wanted him to chase and wasn't going to be the aggressor. Women lose out as well in these cases. The OP wasn't playing games here. However, a lot of women do play games to try to get men to chase them such as pretending to be busy almost all the time, never answering the phone when the guy calls and sometimes not returning the call, etc. Most guys get really turned off when women play those games and will give up. Why should a man jump through hoops for a woman he just met?
You'reasian Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 The OP wasn't playing games here. However, a lot of women do play games to try to get men to chase them such as pretending to be busy almost all the time, never answering the phone when the guy calls and sometimes not returning the call, etc. Most guys get really turned off when women play those games and will give up. Why should a man jump through hoops for a woman he just met? From the woman's perspective, its a hasty way to validate his interest. Her belief is that "if the dude is worth it, he will jump through the hoop!" Its rational, but shows little experience in attracting stable relationship material. A man who respects himself and hasn't had a chance to even build rapport with the woman he's met has no vested interest in doing such and will walk away. A desperate man will jump for the chance to get in her pants or if he's just a sad puppy etc. If a man responds to her hoop jumping, she's guaranteed to have the power in the relationship... and soon he'll be posting on Love Shack with a thread that ends in.. "...Help!"
gamma1 Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 About three months ago, I was in contact with someone from Match. We had exchanged a few emails through the sight, then moved to the phone. We had arranged to meet, per the ad he said he was divorced, early 40s with one child. Then he called and canceled because he said he wanted to watch a basketball game on TV that night. I said alright, he did not reschedule. Next time something like this happens with a man, tell him it's over for good if he gives you such a pathetic excuse.
paleblue Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 Sounds like a weirdo player. I say good call telling him no thanks sucka!!!
phineas Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 The OP wasn't playing games here. However, a lot of women do play games to try to get men to chase them such as pretending to be busy almost all the time, never answering the phone when the guy calls and sometimes not returning the call, etc. Most guys get really turned off when women play those games and will give up. Why should a man jump through hoops for a woman he just met? From my point of view, if a woman claims to be that busy I assume she just isn't interested or wouldn't have the time for me anyways & stop wasting my time.
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