hopesndreams Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Why do 40 something men have to act like horny teenage boys? At what age do men mature and think with the head on their shoulders? The men I have met this past year are all destined for a lonely life in their later years. They won't be so full of themselves when they hit their 50's & 60's and the only women they can attract are prostitutes. No wonder ladies of the nite are in business. It's for the old, sad f*ckers. Pardon my language. Good luck in getting laid on your first date. It wont be with me bucko.
Green Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 I wouldn't date you with this attitude. Blame yourself for the men you attract/date.
Author hopesndreams Posted July 16, 2010 Author Posted July 16, 2010 These are my inner thoughts. These thoughts are not written on my forehead. Geeeesh.
Green Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 These are my inner thoughts. These thoughts are not written on my forehead. Geeeesh. Please this is a bad attitude victim mentality to relationships. Lifes unfair and no good deed goes unpunished. Now get over it. If you don't stop taking life so seriously you'll never get out alive.
paleblue Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 im not in my 40’s, but all I can think maybe its got something to do with a sense of accomplishment or something, like maybe the clock is ticking and they want to get in whatever they can while they can?
Author hopesndreams Posted July 16, 2010 Author Posted July 16, 2010 Please this is a bad attitude victim mentality to relationships. Lifes unfair and no good deed goes unpunished. Now get over it. If you don't stop taking life so seriously you'll never get out alive. I'm a deep thinker. I make no apologies.
Author hopesndreams Posted July 16, 2010 Author Posted July 16, 2010 im not in my 40’s, but all I can think maybe its got something to do with a sense of accomplishment or something, like maybe the clock is ticking and they want to get in whatever they can while they can? Perhaps, but, if this were so, why would they want to date me and not the tart down the street?
Gattica Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 I have had similar experiences with men in their 40's. I assumed with age came maturity. My mistake!
Author hopesndreams Posted July 16, 2010 Author Posted July 16, 2010 I have had similar experiences with men in their 40's. I assumed with age came maturity. My mistake! Cool. Someone that agrees with me!!!
Green Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Cool. Someone that agrees with me!!! I think I might give up on trying to get through to you.
Author hopesndreams Posted July 16, 2010 Author Posted July 16, 2010 I think I might give up on trying to get through to you. Didn't know you were even trying. I'm all ears though.
paleblue Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Perhaps, but, if this were so, why would they want to date me and not the tart down the street? maybe some of those men had their sh** together better than the others.
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Why do 40 something men have to act like horny teenage boys? At what age do men mature and think with the head on their shoulders? The men I have met this past year are all destined for a lonely life in their later years. They won't be so full of themselves when they hit their 50's & 60's and the only women they can attract are prostitutes. No wonder ladies of the nite are in business. It's for the old, sad f*ckers. Pardon my language. Good luck in getting laid on your first date. It wont be with me bucko. What are you ranting about. If you don't want it... then say no. If the guy likes you then that should not deter him from seeing you again... and also trying again. Why should a man of any age apologize for wanting sex? That is stupid. I have had similar experiences with men in their 40's. I assumed with age came maturity. My mistake! The maturity isn't determined by the attempt... it's determined by how they respond to the word No. You ladies do realize that most of the guys your dating have probably been burned time and time again because they didn't push for it... right?
Author hopesndreams Posted July 16, 2010 Author Posted July 16, 2010 What are you ranting about. If you don't want it... then say no. If the guy likes you then that should not deter him from seeing you again... and also trying again. Why should a man of any age apologize for wanting sex? That is stupid. The maturity isn't determined by the attempt... it's determined by how they respond to the word No. You ladies do realize that most of the guys your dating have probably been burned time and time again because they didn't push for it... right? By the way they react, they are surprised I'm not up for it. Seems like they aren't getting turned down and that I've been a waste of their time.
Gattica Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 The maturity isn't determined by the attempt... it's determined by how they respond to the word No. You ladies do realize that most of the guys your dating have probably been burned time and time again because they didn't push for it... right? [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]My issue is with the response to “no”. [/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri][/FONT][/sIZE]
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 [/b] By the way they react, they are surprised I'm not up for it. Seems like they aren't getting turned down and that I've been a waste of their time. If they get all butt hurt about it... then you don't want them. Stop dating douchebags. I've noticed that when you dating a woman.... if you don't get physical really fast... they just move on. Women can be funny that way.
gamma1 Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Why do 40 something men have to act like horny teenage boys? At what age do men mature and think with the head on their shoulders? The men I have met this past year are all destined for a lonely life in their later years. They won't be so full of themselves when they hit their 50's & 60's and the only women they can attract are prostitutes. No wonder ladies of the nite are in business. It's for the old, sad f*ckers. Pardon my language. Good luck in getting laid on your first date. It wont be with me bucko. There are plenty of mature men in their 40s. How quickly do you get rid of these immature losers? I hope it's immediately when you find out that they are immature losers.
Author hopesndreams Posted July 16, 2010 Author Posted July 16, 2010 There are plenty of mature men in their 40s. How quickly do you get rid of these immature losers? I hope it's immediately when you find out that they are immature losers. It's all the time and energy it takes to get to know someone and then have them do a complete turnaround. They are not the kind, considerate gentlemen they make themselves out to be in the beginning. I'm getting really discouraged.
Author hopesndreams Posted July 16, 2010 Author Posted July 16, 2010 If they get all butt hurt about it... then you don't want them. Stop dating douchebags. I've noticed that when you dating a woman.... if you don't get physical really fast... they just move on. Women can be funny that way. I don't intentionally date douchebags. I don't believe that women need to be groped to feel wanted.
gamma1 Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 It's all the time and energy it takes to get to know someone and then have them do a complete turnaround. They are not the kind, considerate gentlemen they make themselves out to be in the beginning. I'm getting really discouraged. There's nothing wrong with letting off some steam on here. I do it too and I have to fight discouragement for different reasons. Finding love is so darn hard. You need to take a hard look at why you are ending up with the worst men and change your tactics. You could change your venue or change your method of looking for dates. The worst men are often, but not always, the most forward and agressive, so I think it might be easy to end up with them by default. The worst men frequently know exactly what to say to hook many women in. The more you try, the more you will be able to separate the bad from the good. Even more important is you are going to find a great man one day. You may be used to pushing the worst men away, but you don't want to inadventently push him away. You have to be patient and never settle for one of these losers.
Author hopesndreams Posted July 16, 2010 Author Posted July 16, 2010 There's nothing wrong with letting off some steam on here. I do it too and I have to fight discouragement for different reasons. Finding love is so darn hard. You need to take a hard look at why you are ending up with the worst men and change your tactics. You could change your venue or change your method of looking for dates. The worst men are often, but not always, the most forward and agressive, so I think it might be easy to end up with them by default. The worst men frequently know exactly what to say to hook many women in. The more you try, the more you will be able to separate the bad from the good. Even more important is you are going to find a great man one day. You may be used to pushing the worst men away, but you don't want to inadventently push him away. You have to be patient and never settle for one of these losers. Great advice gamma. Thank you.
gamma1 Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 If they get all butt hurt about it... then you don't want them. Stop dating douchebags. I've noticed that when you dating a woman.... if you don't get physical really fast... they just move on. Women can be funny that way. There are plenty of men who like to wait. I'd like to get to know a woman for at least a couple of dates before a kiss and I want to be in an exclusive relationship before I have sex with her. Unfortunately, many women thinks this means I'm not interested. OP, there are men out there who want to wait.
bittersweet memories Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Perhaps, but, if this were so, why would they want to date me and not the tart down the street? Do you kiss on your first date? Sometimes they figure if they get a kiss on there first date they will try and get to other places. R
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 I don't intentionally date douchebags. I don't believe that women need to be groped to feel wanted. There are plenty of non-douchebags out there... so somehow your gunning for them. What is the difference between appropriate groping and inappropriate groping? There are plenty of men who like to wait. I'd like to get to know a woman for at least a couple of dates before a kiss and I want to be in an exclusive relationship before I have sex with her. Unfortunately, many women thinks this means I'm not interested. OP, there are men out there who want to wait. That's exactly what I'm talking about. I went on a date with this woman 24yo, and I told her in advance I had plans with my guy friends after our date that night. It was a 1st date.... and at 8pm after 2 hours of talking she asked me to come back to her place with her... I said I probably shouldn't and walked her to her car. We kissed for a minute, made plans for our next date.... and she never talked to me again. How stupid is that? I'd like to be exclusive too before I do anything... but how can I tell what type of woman it is on the first date. If you ask it's EXTREMELY awkward.
Gattica Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 There are plenty of men who like to wait. I'd like to get to know a woman for at least a couple of dates before a kiss and I want to be in an exclusive relationship before I have sex with her. Unfortunately, many women thinks this means I'm not interested. OP, there are men out there who want to wait. This is what I am looking for and have yet to find.
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