bananaboat11 Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 I'm going to say false. I'm 25 with 2 ltrs with one of them being serious. I've had two miserable, failed relationships recently... and three strs. I'm fortunate and blessed to have a lot of good things going for me... but after these last two bombs I intend to remain single for a while... til 30 possibly. Will I rule out the possibility of a new relationship... no. But if it doesn't happen right away that's fine. A famous movie line... when asked about the 200 some ways Edison failed to invent the incandescent light bulb.. he said he learned 200some ways not to make a light bulb but found one to work. Some people are just not meant to be... but when you both are... you will find eachother in the right place and right time. Be open, be true and be you and you'll find yourself there
brainygirl Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 On the one hand, people mature at different rates and just may not have gotten to the settle down and find a mate stage by thirty. On the other hand, there are lots of people in the "about 30" age range who seem to want a mate, but can't find one. (myself included) Makes me wonder if there isn't something wrong with us, society, or the whole mating process.
carhill Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Makes me wonder if there isn't something wrong with us, society, or the whole mating process. IMO, there are a lot more choices now than a generation or two ago. Think about it, with the world so small and the options so diverse, what are the chances of meeting a compatible person if one avails themselves of all life has to offer? Is 'settling down' a thing of the past? For myself, I never thought of getting married as 'settling down', rather sharing my life with someone whom I thought I had emotional intimacy and rapport, an addition to an already fulfilling life. I've never seen women as a means to an end (sex/marriage/etc), but rather as companions on a relatively brief journey of living. The acts arising from that journey are merely incidental to it. One perspective, a minority one to be sure....
Crazy Magnet Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 False. My BF is 35 and never married. He's totally normal. I have no idea why some other women didn't snatch him up as I think he's the greatest thing ever. But if they did he wouldn't have been available to me!!
Woggle Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 False. My BF is 35 and never married. He's totally normal. I have no idea why some other women didn't snatch him up as I think he's the greatest thing ever. But if they did he wouldn't have been available to me!! Chances are at a younger women didn't know how to appreciate him. I hate to sterotype women but when you look at the fact that many of them at a young are utterly horrible at picking a man maybe it would be a better idea for a man to wait a while to commit.
brainygirl Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Chances are at a younger women didn't know how to appreciate him. I hate to sterotype women but when you look at the fact that many of them at a young are utterly horrible at picking a man maybe it would be a better idea for a man to wait a while to commit. I think its safe to say that both sexes have a learning curve when it comes to picking a mate and navigating relationships.
chocolate_boy Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Well I'm 29 now, 30 in a few months, and currently I've been mostly single for 3 years this month, maybe there is something wrong with me, but I've had 4 ltr in the past 12 years, one of which I was engaged to, that ended when we were both 22, we just wanted different things from life, but I have two other friends who got married at age 21/23 and they're still happy together 7 years later. My last relationship was a nasty one though, lived with a girl who had BPD, abusive, cheated on me numerous times, manipulated me, since then I was happy to be single and had no desires to be in a relationship again for a few years. You could call me damaged goods, I've been dating a girl for the last few months, but she just dumped me this week saying something wasn't quite clicking for her, despite being hugely into me before. I think I pushed her away on purpose, despite really really liking her. But looking at it, she was also quite manipulative, ignoring me on purpose, playing games, so maybe I just attract the wrong girls.
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