Author looktothelight Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 Thanks Kamille, for the informative reply. It's good now. i spent the night with him the other night. He's having some MAJOR family and financial issues right now and we both work alot. Lately we've both been getting off around 10:30. I have taken the advice by not playing any more games and not trying too hard, being myself and being quiet if i have nothing to say. He's been opening up about these huge problems and is seeming to depend on me for comfort. I'm being trusting and happy, but cautious. I'll update if problems arise.
Author looktothelight Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 Nevermind. It's over now. After I spent the night with him twice and there was some touching and it was really really great the chemistry was amazing and I know he agreed. I got out of his car about 2 weeks ago, told him to tell me when he's off work so we can have a date during the day, and to be happy. He said okay. Nothing since. It's like I have to stay ready for these things. Most people don't have the balls to tell you they don't want to continue associating with you, or disappear and never say anything in an attempt to keep a foot in the door so to speak. I'm not making excuses for him but he's extremely uncertain about his life, he hates his job and is basically trapped where he lives and living hand to mouth. But he can sure as hell be certain about ME. My last effort was just a voicemail telling him how he's acting is confusing me and i don't undersand the problem at all and if something is wrong. That it's horrible to have used my body with obviously having no intentions or further contact and didn't tell me. That when he says he's sorry I might or might not reply. And that I'm going to call someone who makes me smile and wants to spend time with me. What a total ass. End. :[ I wish I felt attracted to more people so I can move on.
2sunny Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 he's just not that into you... you LET him call late - and last minute - the try to make yourself available for him. stop that. he doesn't make the effort. he has other gals he's spending time and energy on. it's not you - he's an a$$ - like you dais - but don't be the recipient of him being THAT a$$. don't have contact with him anymore. he's never made you his TOP priority.
Author looktothelight Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 I KNOW he's not into me. I KNOW to not contact him anymore. I was just telling what ended up happening. I don't need anymore snappishness..I'd like to have kindness now.. It's even hard to find it on the internet now much less real life. We've been bickering amongst ourselves at work and it's getting hard. I'm also in the middle of transfering aparments, to a nicer one with better amenities and benefits. :/ I'm stressed and ready for new things. Most of all..I'd just like to find a fellow female I can have 'girl talks' with..and go shopping and out to eat, and get our nails done.. My, I'm pathetically lonely. Sorry guys. Just really wanted to get all that off my chest.
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