AlexiHC Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 So thia is following up in my other thread, went out with this chick she said she would call me after she got off work the next day, didn't hear from her that day, so I hit her up the following day *Sunday* and got no response so I decided not to bother anymore. The next day, Monday, she hits me up so I'm like hey what's up and she says "just wanted to say hi :)" and we got to talking, she stopped by my work later that evening and we talked for awhile and we were talkin for awhile and I mentioned going to a baseball game this Thursday and she said we should go together etc. So I text her today to get all the details worked out for Thursday, haven't heard anything. Should I keep trying to pursue this or just peace out? Any thoughts or input would be awesome
moxo Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 To be brutally honest it sounds like you are not the first choice and she's only contacting you when she's bored or lonely or something. I used to do that to guys I wasn't really that into, but they were good to have around for when i had nothing better to do. It's really mean and I don't do it anymore, but that's what it sounds like to me. I think you should find someone who is nicer to you.
Author AlexiHC Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 I appreciate the input, i suddenly just made plans to wash my hair every night this week lol, seriously though so next time she hits me up im not even gonna respond at all, maybe i'll respond if she hits me up a few times.
Serenitynow Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Did you ask her why she gave you the runaround the first time ? .
Author AlexiHC Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 no i just figured she was busy and/or tired from working saturday and sunday. But the fact she didnt hit me up sealed it like im done lol im not gonna even give her a courtesy response
vestigalvirgin Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 A baseball game is too big of an investment of time/money/effort for the initial date (although it sounds "plausible"). Let's face it--are ball games really that much fun as a spectator? No, boring as heck most of the time, and they take 2-3 hours, you're stuck in a hard little seat and your rear end gets sore. You can't change things up and move around, and if you're in the hot sun it can be very uncomfortable. Make it really really easy--suggest a coffee or cold drink at the nearest coffee bar. Then on the way and depending on the time of day, you could casually suggest "Hey y'know would you mind if we get a cocktail/a beer? I don't know if I'm really in the mood for coffee" and see where that goes. Either way it's a better way to get to know her over a drink of some kind and if you're not clicking she can bail if she wants to after the drink is done.
Author AlexiHC Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 We already went out for drinks/dinner and were there for like 3 hours, not really worried about her getting bored at a baseball game. She enjoys sports, besides she was the one saying we should go etc. Regardless, she cant seem to text me back so whatever I'm done, any ideas on what I should do if she comes into my work tonight? I am pretty sure she will its my last night there and she knows it. Do I talk to her like nothing happened, or ignore her maybe? or just treat her like any other random customer and be like hey whats up and let that be the extent of it?
vestigalvirgin Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Drat, why are you wasting time with a ball game? Invite her back to your place where you will have drinks and you will prepare her a gourment dinner. Then take her to bed.
Art_Critic Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 It sounds to me like she was looking for more effort than a text message form you.. Next time think about picking up the phone and using the god given thing they call a voice to speak with.. Women like to hear a person speak they are letting into their world.. She made the effort to hit you up and went to see you and you just texted her.. To me it sounds like you are more interested in her than she is in you.. bad sign..
Author AlexiHC Posted July 8, 2010 Author Posted July 8, 2010 Why make the effort to call when a simple text goes unanswerered lol, I really dont have a choice but text on days i work, i cant be talking on the phone, but texting isnt a big deal. Really though, any thoughts on the situation if she comes into my work tonight? I have to go to work in 20 minutes lol
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