Engadget Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 It's something I'm not quite accustomed to, but I am enjoying although it worries me. I met this girl only about five days ago, and my usual modus operandi is to wait on sex, but she wasn't having that and we've had sex more than once every day we've seen each other. We both expressed our worries about getting hurt and taking it slow, but for her it seems she's just paying lip service to the idea, and pushing me towards exclusivity. I mentioned a female friend of mine wants me and her to go to her house, and she got very suspicious and jealous despite telling her she is only a friend and nothing more. I like her, I just don't want to hurt her if she gets too attached and I back off.
Pyro Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 you've already expressed your concerns. If she continually ignores your words then she is the one to blame if she pushes you away.
Author Engadget Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 you've already expressed your concerns. If she continually ignores your words then she is the one to blame if she pushes you away. She agrees, but then seems to act like she forgot she ever said it. She referred to herself as "girlfriend" and the L word came up at one point, and I've known her under a week. Under most circumstances I'd turn tail and run, but I do enjoy spending time with her.
Pyro Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 She agrees, but then seems to act like she forgot she ever said it. She referred to herself as "girlfriend" and the L word came up at one point, and I've known her under a week. Under most circumstances I'd turn tail and run, but I do enjoy spending time with her. My first love was like that. It was a disaster. I was young and inexperienced though. She has moved very quickly. Watch yourself. She has thrown many red flags. If she isn't going to fully listen to you now imagine months or even years down the road.
Author Engadget Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 True. The sex is pretty amazing though because unlike my last girlfriend, she's extremely dominant in bed. She always wants to be on top which is new for me, and if I'm not even thinking about sex she basically pushes me into it, which is hot in it's own way
Sivok Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Either the girl knows what she wants, or she's done this before many times. Becareful
RedRussian Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 For what ever reason ( non can be good ) she is clearly trying to manipulate you towards a BF status at the very list as fast as possible wile keeping you off balance with her lip service.
Author Engadget Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 Either the girl knows what she wants, or she's done this before many times. Becareful She knows what she wants for sure, and had a couple short flings after breaking up with her ex around the same time I broke up with mine. She even said she goes after what she wants, which in this case is me. I'm just wary of getting too attached and having something go wrong.
ADF Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 You say your usual modus operandi is wait on sex, but that this woman "wasn't having it." I assume she didn't force herself on you, so you couldn't have pressed your point about waiting on sex very hard. This, I predict, is the mistake that will come back to haunt you. When guys talk about "taking it slow," they almost NEVER mean sex. What they want to take slowly is the commitment part, not the sex part. If this relationship sours, she is likely to throw the fact you jumped right into bed with her in your face. She'll demand to know why, if you weren't sure about her, you slept with her anyway. If you really want to convince her you're serious about taking thing slow, you might suggest a haitus on sex with her. Just go out together for a while, have fun, but stay out of bed.
Author Engadget Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 You say your usual modus operandi is wait on sex, but that this woman "wasn't having it." I assume she didn't force herself on you, so you couldn't have pressed your point about waiting on sex very hard. This, I predict, is the mistake that will come back to haunt you. When guys talk about "taking it slow," they almost NEVER mean sex. What they want to take slowly is the commitment part, not the sex part. If this relationship sours, she is likely to throw the fact you jumped right into bed with her in your face. She'll demand to know why, if you weren't sure about her, you slept with her anyway. If you really want to convince her you're serious about taking thing slow, you might suggest a haitus on sex with her. Just go out together for a while, have fun, but stay out of bed. I did press the point, and yeah after a certain point of her jumping on me and pinning my arms down I did eventually give in.
thegoodlife Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Some women have the idea that they can change a man's mind about relationships. I see my friends do it all the time, they meet a guy who is clear from the beginning that he's not looking for a relationship and they still get involved thinking 'well once he sees how nice I am...'. It's worked out for a couple of them, but for the most part it leaves them getting burned. I've done the same thing with the very first guy I slept with. Except, going into it I truly believed I didn't want a relationship with him and I just wanted fun...little did I know the way my emotions would change after sleeping with him. Just be careful. This girl may say she doesn't want a relationship but from the sounds of it she's already leaning that way and keeping you in tow with the amazing sex.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 She referred to herself as "girlfriend" and the L word came up at one point, and I've known her under a week. This is absolutely crazy.
RedRussian Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Dude don't walk RUN! from this Type of Crazy ( ToC ) Bad news. These girls come on strong and quick but lose interest in same way. One day she will be all over you next she will fly to the next guy to get her "fix". Also when she "has" you sex will be all but gone and she will use it against you as a manipulation and power tool.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 I'm just wary of getting too attached and having something go wrong. Yeah, sounds like there could be a lot of potential issues here. I say enjoy the sex and fun, but be careful with the emotional side with this one.
VertexSquared Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Yeah, sounds like there could be a lot of potential issues here. I say enjoy the sex and fun, but be careful with the emotional side with this one. Seconded. 10char
Author Engadget Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 This is absolutely crazy. Yes it is, but my lonely side likes it in a way, which isn't good.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Yes it is, but my lonely side likes it in a way, which isn't good. I think her full court press is going to get old real fast. Enjoy the ride, but expect to wear out eventually.
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