Mac91 Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 I actually made a post in the "In Search Of.." forum and I feel that I put it in the wrong place lol. Anyways, so basically, at work there is this girl that I think likes me. In my other thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2827997#post2827997 We can hold a conversation for a long time, and often when we're talking with other people she'll turn and look at me. She does subtle things, but I think it's because she is shy. Then again, they might be subtle for a reason right? Subtle being bumping into me in a room, not moving when I stand close to her... things like that. She's told me some pretty personal things, considering I've only known her for a month.. and thats only at work when I get to see her for about 3 hours max each time. She blushes sometimes, like when she tells me stuff (tattoos etc). But I don't know. Maybe she isn't interested after all? I offered her to come with me to the mall today... was gonna surprise her at lunch at her favorite food place (sushi) but she appeared really tired today. She was hosting a little party at another city 1-2 hours away, she had little sleep, so I figured she wasn't going to have the strength to come shopping lol. Turns out I was right, and I don't hold her against it. I don't wanna be selfish. I told her to let me know when she's done sleeping if she wanted to go to the mall. She agreed to let me know. So... my conclusion is... what now? Do I pursuit after this day? Do i drop it?
Cracker Jack Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 I think you should wait on it a bit. Dropping it totally isn't necessary, but I think you should allow her to make contact now in regards to what goes on today. You mentioned that she was hosting a party, so it's highly unlikely that she's not interested in you. Just let it play out a bit more. Patience is the key.
Author Mac91 Posted June 7, 2010 Author Posted June 7, 2010 Alright, well, she never contacted me back. But it could be because she didn't even have my number yet, only my FB.. and she didnt log on her facebook. So she could have left it in her other house. But, I sent her a message on FB giving her my number, and asked for hers. She never replied. The next day I talked with her on FB for an hour. But, it looks like she isn't interested.. Even though we held a solid conversation for about an hour +.. Maybe my predictions were wrong after all.. though she is sweet, I don't think she's attracted to me. Thoughts? Opinions?
Author Mac91 Posted June 7, 2010 Author Posted June 7, 2010 Can anyone take a stab at this? Lol.. it's always good to get a view from the outside. Do you guys need more details? and details about what?
bac Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I actually made a post in the "In Search Of.." forum and I feel that I put it in the wrong place lol. I told her to let me know when she's done sleeping if she wanted to go to the mall. She agreed to let me know. So... my conclusion is... what now? Do I pursuit after this day? Do i drop it? A man should take all initiative. You are expected to take initiative, be persistant, handle rejection easily, be flexible. First, you talk to a girl to get info about her. Then, you do the right steps according to the info about the girl. For example, if you had the info that the girl was tired on the particular day, you should be safe and should not invite her on date on that day. You drop a girl right away when you have clear/direct signs of rejection such as direct verbal statements from a girl about that. From what I understand you are dealing with a young girl. Young girls often do not know what they want even themselves. If you have mixed messages, you might want to make 5 right efforts. If all of them are rejected, she probably does not like you.
D-Lish Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 It's too hard to tell one way or the other, especially from the outside. You's be the one most capable of judging if she's interested because you interact with her. What did you talk about on FB during that hour convo?
Feelin Frisky Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 No, a man shouldn't take all the initiative. Make her show you something. Right now she ain't showing you zip. Don't be a wuss. You showed enough. If she shows no interest, then take the hint. March around and beat your chest like Tarzan and say I'm a man. Repeat that procedure untill you believe it. Hint: Tattoos are a tip off of an insecure person. Complain all you want yee of cheaply bought inked-on bravado but it doesn't truck with me.
Author Mac91 Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 A man should take all initiative. You are expected to take initiative, be persistant, handle rejection easily, be flexible. First, you talk to a girl to get info about her. Then, you do the right steps according to the info about the girl. For example, if you had the info that the girl was tired on the particular day, you should be safe and should not invite her on date on that day. You drop a girl right away when you have clear/direct signs of rejection such as direct verbal statements from a girl about that. From what I understand you are dealing with a young girl. Young girls often do not know what they want even themselves. If you have mixed messages, you might want to make 5 right efforts. If all of them are rejected, she probably does not like you. Well, she's 20... I do get mixed messages but damn. I don't know if I should keep going at her consistently? I'm thinking of taking a little break and keep the talking to a minimal. Let her do the contacting.. I don't wanna seem desperate, and I don't want this girl to have her finger wrapped around me. Although I do like her very much, I'm not gonna stoop down and bow down. Unless I know she likes me, and even then.. It's too hard to tell one way or the other, especially from the outside. You's be the one most capable of judging if she's interested because you interact with her. What did you talk about on FB during that hour convo? I dunno, I get mixed messages. Maybe I over read her, maybe she's not that interested. Maybe I'm the one who's interested? We talked about a bunch of stuff. I started out with the usual, hey.. how's it going... blah blah... and it branched out to a bunch of different topics(past job bar tending, her crazy friend, etc). She's quite the funny gal though, and generally there were few "silences". She seemed to be interested in the conversation, and generally she responded with more than one word answers. No, a man shouldn't take all the initiative. Make her show you something. Right now she ain't showing you zip. Don't be a wuss. You showed enough. If she shows no interest, then take the hint. March around and beat your chest like Tarzan and say I'm a man. Repeat that procedure untill you believe it. Hint: Tattoos are a tip off of an insecure person. Complain all you want yee of cheaply bought inked-on bravado but it doesn't truck with me. I was thinking this exactly. I've already made my attempts... she didn't even respond to my message and give me her number so. I'm not gonna show too much interest unless she shows some. I've always seen it as a two way street, I'm not gonna go "crazy" for this girl, even though I like her alot. Hopefully something will happen. It sucks though, cause some girls won't even let you show them how you can take care of them.
Author Mac91 Posted June 10, 2010 Author Posted June 10, 2010 Well, back here again. And it looks like she's showing a littler interest... commenting on my wall, etc... She did end up exchanging numbers, claiming that she didn't "see it until today". Now I've got something to work with, hooray
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