Author kassy Posted June 2, 2010 Author Posted June 2, 2010 As long as it takes... it's not like I'm leading him on, if he's interested then things will happen, if not... well I'm the only one who will have wasted any time. I don't really see why it matters.
Serenitynow Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 it's potential for disaster if he isn't interested Whats the worst that could happen ?
Author kassy Posted June 2, 2010 Author Posted June 2, 2010 The situation becomes awkward and our currently fantastic and fun friendship ends. In which case he doesn't make sure my bike handling skills are up to scratch, help me buy a suitable bike, teach me how to fix every part of it, write me a training program for everest taking into account my upcoming leg operation and recovery, help me make sure I'm prepared and packed properly... oh and also isn't there to have fun with and do the long rides with... I live in a big city, there aren't too many people here who have cycled across the himalayas from tibet to kathmandu via everest.... it's a pretty specialist knowledge he has. And when I'm doubting if I can do it, I know he'll help pick me up. I think he's pretty irreplacable in terms of what skills he brings to my next year, but more so it'd suck to do it without him there for the training because I really like and respect him as a person, regardless of whether he wants to date me or not. I really enjoy his company and I know at the least he enjoys mine. So yeah... I think that is quite a lot to lose personally.
Serenitynow Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 So now all of a sudden you are using logic to determine this ? What happened to throwing logic out the window like you said before ? On the other hand , lets say he does ask you out, you guys date for a few months, and then it goes sour. NOW what are you gonna do for next year, after having a bad relationship with your trainer ?
Author kassy Posted June 2, 2010 Author Posted June 2, 2010 Hey I totally agree... you asked me what I have to lose, I told you. I didn't say I had changed my position on the situation. I'm stupid to go there until after everest, but that doesn't change the fact that I really want to and want to know if he feels the same. If he does... well I can't see how we would be able to just put that aside for a year, as convenient as that would be. In many ways if he isn't interested it would be a blessing in disguise.
runner Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 kassy, i believe there is an 'add to ignore list' feature around here somewhere ...just saying and good luck with that little bit of mystery you have going, IME, it does make for some pretty good sex down the line (if and when it does get to that point)
sagetalk Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 can't help myself, logic be damned. That may be the one millionth time I've heard a girl damn logic, I wish I had a cool graphic to celebrate this occasion . I would be careful with this one. I believe the main reason you are attracted to him is his seeming lack of interest in his dealings with you. This is a sure fire way to get a girl turned on to a man (especially if the guy is cool). Really, you're just attracted to his actions which is not the best way to start a solid relationship. Then again, if you just want to have fun and don't care if he says, "I''m gay, no thanks" then why not. It may turn out you're attracted to more than just the way he acts.
Serenitynow Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Originally Posted by kassy can't help myself, logic be damned. That may be the one millionth time I've heard a girl damn logic At least someone else around here is willing to speak honestly and not just smooch up to the OP you're just attracted to his actions I was going to explain that to her, but she obviously throws logic out the window so I knew it would be like beating my head against a wall. Many females, especially around her age, get attracted to that older guy scenario, where he seems so much smarter than guys her age. They will sell their children to be with the guy
alphamale Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Any way to find out? yea you can invite him over for dinner. feed him some good food and stock up on his favourite alcoholic beverage. get him hammered and then the truth should become apparent.
Author kassy Posted June 3, 2010 Author Posted June 3, 2010 Sagetalk, thanks for another point of view. I have wondered if I like him because I need him. But to be honest, I think I really just like spending time with him, the banter and how much fun we have. I wouldn't say he seems uninterested, it's just hard to gage whether he is interested in being a friend or being more. In terms of being a cool guy, he's a great guy, but he's not 'Mr. Cool'. Certainly not a player, almost a bit geeky, but comfortable with who he is and works with what he's got. And in terms of his age...well that's actually a bit of a problem for me. I would say I like him in spite of his age. yeah Runner, I know I need to stop taking the bait:laugh: I agree if it works out it's probably gonna be a whole world of fun.
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