Disillusioned Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Funny how tobacco is becoming less socially acceptable while pot is becoming more socially acceptable. Smoking anything is bad news though... I used to not be bothered about the idea of dating a female smoker, because I'm not into the heavy kissing thing... but then after my mother died from the big C, I looked up info about how smoking can mess up your DNA... nowadays it scares the hell out of me.
Author Rorschach Posted April 23, 2010 Author Posted April 23, 2010 It is odd that so many are okay with alcohol but not with weed. Alcohol has, by far, caused more deaths and illnesses than weed. I'd be more comfortable with an occasional weed smoker than I am with a drinker. For me it is about the choices made to continue to drink or smoke week, and the choices made when drinking and smoking weed. The other drugs and excessive drinking- no thanks. Too altering and if I'm dating them, I want to date THEM not who they become on their preferred substance. I know it's odd, but it's just the way I think. When I say I'm okay with drinking I mean very light drinking, anybody who would describe themselves as a moderate drinker is out in my book.
annxxdisaster Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 What about those of us who need a perscription drug to function normally? I have been diagnosed with narcolepsy and I take adderall and dextroamphetamines to stay awake and alert during the day. Without it, I can sort of still function...except my body will constantly go through this sleep cycle during the day (I'll be alert and awake one minute and nodding off to sleep the next). I don't make the best person to be around without it, it's like hanging out with someone who gets 2 hours of sleep (if that) every night.
Romance Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I'm the same way. I have had some health issues and honestly I am very afraid to die (So afraid that I go to a therapist for this) and I'm only 19. Sure, I've gotten drunk a few times and yeah I've smoked weed. However, within about the past year, drinking/smoking has scared me. I don't like doing it. But my friends and boyfriend get angry at me. It's upsetting. I don't tell them they can't drink, I'd just rather not because i don't like thinking what alcohol does to my brain.
Author Rorschach Posted April 23, 2010 Author Posted April 23, 2010 What about those of us who need a perscription drug to function normally? I have been diagnosed with narcolepsy and I take adderall and dextroamphetamines to stay awake and alert during the day. Without it, I can sort of still function...except my body will constantly go through this sleep cycle during the day (I'll be alert and awake one minute and nodding off to sleep the next). I don't make the best person to be around without it, it's like hanging out with someone who gets 2 hours of sleep (if that) every night. What part of my post said I had a problem with prescription drugs? Of course, there is a difference between the guy who has a prescription for valium and takes it for pain, and the guy who has a prescription for valium and takes it to get high. But thats really only a mental difference and nobody but that person will ever be able to tell.
Author Rorschach Posted April 23, 2010 Author Posted April 23, 2010 I'm the same way. I have had some health issues and honestly I am very afraid to die (So afraid that I go to a therapist for this) and I'm only 19. Sure, I've gotten drunk a few times and yeah I've smoked weed. However, within about the past year, drinking/smoking has scared me. I don't like doing it. But my friends and boyfriend get angry at me. It's upsetting. I don't tell them they can't drink, I'd just rather not because i don't like thinking what alcohol does to my brain. This is close to the way I think, I think it's really quite pathetic that people like us are the ones who are mocked as outsiders. People who DON'T want to *** themselves up...
annxxdisaster Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 What part of my post said I had a problem with prescription drugs? Of course, there is a difference between the guy who has a prescription for valium and takes it for pain, and the guy who has a prescription for valium and takes it to get high. But thats really only a mental difference and nobody but that person will ever be able to tell. You didn't, I was just asking. You made a mention how you personally don't like to take tylenol too much, so I was just curious how you feel about those.
Romance Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 This is close to the way I think, I think it's really quite pathetic that people like us are the ones who are mocked as outsiders. People who DON'T want to *** themselves up... Yeah, it's really upsetting. I seem like I'd be a 'party girl' I guess from my outgoing personality and such. So when I say I don't want to drink everyone is like "Whats wrong? Why are you being so lame?" "well its stupid for you to come to the party if you won't be drinking." It's very annoying! I couldn't care less if my boyfriend and my friends drink..I used to do it too! Now it just terrifies me. I worry that I will mess up my brain somehow.
Author Rorschach Posted April 23, 2010 Author Posted April 23, 2010 You didn't, I was just asking. You made a mention how you personally don't like to take tylenol too much, so I was just curious how you feel about those. Well I'm an extremist, about the only way you could get me to take drugs was if I had a SERIOUS medical condition and I needed to. But of course, I don't expect to meet somebody as extreme as I am, I just need somebody who is in the ballpark. Drinks lightly if at all. Doesn't smoke cigarettes EVER. (hopefully) doesn't smoke pot (though I'm still undecided about this). I have no problem with people who take prescription drugs, I personally avoid it but I realize that is probably a bad thing, so I have no problem dating somebody who does. I'll probably break down one of these days (if I feel forced too) and smoke a joint just to explode my mental roadblocks. But I'd prefer simply meeting somebody who felt the same way as me.
Author Rorschach Posted April 23, 2010 Author Posted April 23, 2010 Yeah, it's really upsetting. I seem like I'd be a 'party girl' I guess from my outgoing personality and such. So when I say I don't want to drink everyone is like "Whats wrong? Why are you being so lame?" "well its stupid for you to come to the party if you won't be drinking." It's very annoying! I couldn't care less if my boyfriend and my friends drink..I used to do it too! Now it just terrifies me. I worry that I will mess up my brain somehow. I always just claim to be allergic if I don't feel like drinking, it takes too much effort to explain that I just love having 100% total control of my body and I feel alcohol takes away control which I don't appreciate.
yume Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Yeah, it's really upsetting. I seem like I'd be a 'party girl' I guess from my outgoing personality and such. So when I say I don't want to drink everyone is like "Whats wrong? Why are you being so lame?" "well its stupid for you to come to the party if you won't be drinking." That's when you go anyways and entertain all the drunks! I used to always say I'd never date a smoker but....so much for that. Last two people I've dated have smoked. It turns out it doesn't bother me as much as I thought it would...probably because both my parents smoked when I was growing up and my Dad still does. I would not go out with someone who did cocaine or any of the major stuff. Weed, eh. Never had a problem with it (until this week) but I doubt I'd date someone now who does it regularly. Big drinker is also a no-no. I'm more concerned about being with someone who's responsible and willing to have fun without alcohol if need be. We all have our rules...but sometimes we don't always stick to them.
neowulf Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I think it's important to know what you'll stand for and what you'll let slide. So long as you understand that you're cutting your options back. E.g. I work pretty hard as living a healthy lifestyle, regular exercise and eating right. I wouldn't be compatiable with a woman who was 20kg over weight, loved pigging out on junk food and laying around the house all day. I drink occassionally (never to get drunk these days), so I don't mind so much if my partner likes a drink now and then. I wouldn't be ok with a partner who wanted to go to a bar every night of the week. I don't do recreational drugs (weed, E's etc) and wouldn't really be ok with a partner who did. ... The point is it doesn't matter if others think you're being unreasonable. It matters if *you* think you're being unreasonable. In the end only you can say "Yeah, I'm ok with X, but I'm *NOT* ok with Y". Stick to your guns and find someone compatiable for you. It's a HUGE world (World Population: 6,800,000,000). The odds are pretty good you'll find someone
Author Rorschach Posted April 23, 2010 Author Posted April 23, 2010 I think it's important to know what you'll stand for and what you'll let slide. So long as you understand that you're cutting your options back. E.g. I work pretty hard as living a healthy lifestyle, regular exercise and eating right. I wouldn't be compatiable with a woman who was 20kg over weight, loved pigging out on junk food and laying around the house all day. I drink occassionally (never to get drunk these days), so I don't mind so much if my partner likes a drink now and then. I wouldn't be ok with a partner who wanted to go to a bar every night of the week. I don't do recreational drugs (weed, E's etc) and wouldn't really be ok with a partner who did. ... The point is it doesn't matter if others think you're being unreasonable. It matters if *you* think you're being unreasonable. In the end only you can say "Yeah, I'm ok with X, but I'm *NOT* ok with Y". Stick to your guns and find someone compatiable for you. It's a HUGE world (World Population: 6,800,000,000). The odds are pretty good you'll find someone I think this is what bothers me most when people drink, people who drink to purposefully feel drunk, i just don't get it...
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