t0ri Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 (edited) What does your SO do that makes you believe they love you? I'm not looking for ways to do this, but am curious what others experience that make them feel and BELIEVE and TRUST they are loved by their SO. And I don't mean any materialistic things, like receiving expensive presents. Edited April 19, 2010 by t0ri
Romance Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Well we're long distance so the little "Good morning baby, i love you, i hope this doesn't wake you!" texts and just when we're together and in bed at night him coming over and holding on to me, holding my hand in front of his friends, and a lot of the time after he leaves for the weekend he'll leave a little note in my bed for me to find when i get in bed that night like "Goodnight babe, I miss you, I wish I was here" Just stuff like that.
Stung Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 There are really a LOT of behaviors that let me trust that my husband loves me; I'd have to think about it for a bit to really break them down. The basics: He calls when he says he will, shows up when he says he will. He keeps in contact if I'm away for a couple of days or even just throughout the workday, IM/txt/phone, to let me know he misses me or thought of me. He supports me in my dreams and comes to me when he needs support of his own, when he is stressed or unsure of where to go next. We are a team and put each other's emotional needs first. When I need help, he is there to help me. He always kisses me when he is leaving in the morning. Even when he is angry with me and we are arguing and misunderstanding each other he is always committed to us staying together; he never ever makes me afraid he has one foot out the door. He always touches me in our bed at night, not just pre- or post- coital. He just likes to touch me, and he inhales my scent and tells me I am beautiful.
quankanne Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 lately? Him doing those little things to make me feel better because I'd been sick. Like hugs, backrubs, crawling into bed and holding me until I either warmed up or fell asleep, and even sitting in the bathroom when I showered because I felt woozy but I still wanted to be clean. It sounds like small stuff, but when you're feeling crappy, those little bitty courtesies mean a lot ...
kiss_andmakeup Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 He tells me how beautiful I look when I've just woken up and have huge bags under my eyes. ;P Also, we live together so we see each other every morning/evening, and he still sends me a text every afternoon while I'm at work saying something like "Hi baby, I love you!" ::melt::
GorillaTheater Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 I'm a "physical touch" and "words of affirmation" guy. My wife is "acts of service". Great book, "The Five Love Languages".
aerogurl87 Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Like Romance my guy and I are long distance, but I feel the love from him when he texts me every morning "Good morning hun" or some other sweet variation of that. In fact, I've gotten so used to it that now I've made him my unofficial alarm clock, lol. Then I feel loved when he texts me randomly throughout the day. He listens to me rant about stuff and never complains. Basically he's just amazing, and he gets more amazing every day that I talk to him.
threebyfate Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 When he comes home from work, he hugs and holds me like he never wants to let go.When he grills steak, he always ensures that mine is rare, needing no prompting.He asks for my advice, really listens to it and takes it or not, reliant on his judgement (element of respect which to me, is part of love).Since I've been on bedrest, he doesn't complain about pulling more than his fair share.He's taken to carrying me around a bit since the previa diagnosis (but not all the time).He made me promise not to get up too much when he's not home to take me to the doctor or hospital.He willingly goes out and picks things up when I get a food craving.He's consistently reliable with both words and actions.The way he gently touches my face and looks into my eyes makes me feel loved and cherished.
spookie Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 lol tbf... i love that your #2 is that your man will feed you raw meat
spookie Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 lol tbf... i love that your #2 is that your man feeds you raw meat
threebyfate Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 I'm a carnivore so if the blood sacrifice isn't offered, I don't feel loved!
Pyro Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 She paid heaps of cash to fly 9500 miles to see me. I can't wait for the day to return the favor.
pandagirl Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 My LDR boyfriend may not be the most romantic, but he is solid and always there for me. Our careers are very important to us, and I've currently been in the midst of a career crisis, and feeling down about it. He is my biggest cheerleader and supporter. He truly believes in me and my talent and tells me often, and it's just not because he's my boyfriend. He doesn't let me feel sorry for myself, but pushes me to be my best. I love that about him.
melodymatters Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 My husband passed away almost a year ago, but I would like to honor how very well he treated me. He would make me tea every morning and bring it to bed. He would do ANYTHING for my teenage daughter when most previous guys just looked at her as a pain in the ass. He would accompany me on my rounds as property manager and would fix anything, move anything that needed it without resentment or expecting anything in return. Just trying to make MY life easier. He always told me how beautiful I was, especially first thing in the morning when I was a mess, or at the beach during spring break when there were tons of hot 20 yr old around ! He let my old dog sleep in our bed. He told me I was his " home" and wherever I was would always be home. He framed our wedding pics and marriage certificate and hung them up, as he was so proud. He was always there for me emotionally, I was always first on his list. He was a wonderful person, the best R I had ever had. I doubt I'll ever find another like him. Here's to you my sweet Michael, I miss you and think of you every day:love:
Rorschach Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 My husband passed away almost a year ago, but I would like to honor how very well he treated me. He would make me tea every morning and bring it to bed. He would do ANYTHING for my teenage daughter when most previous guys just looked at her as a pain in the ass. He would accompany me on my rounds as property manager and would fix anything, move anything that needed it without resentment or expecting anything in return. Just trying to make MY life easier. He always told me how beautiful I was, especially first thing in the morning when I was a mess, or at the beach during spring break when there were tons of hot 20 yr old around ! He let my old dog sleep in our bed. He told me I was his " home" and wherever I was would always be home. He framed our wedding pics and marriage certificate and hung them up, as he was so proud. He was always there for me emotionally, I was always first on his list. He was a wonderful person, the best R I had ever had. I doubt I'll ever find another like him. Here's to you my sweet Michael, I miss you and think of you every day:love: post made me tear up. I admit I'm a little emotionally unstable right now anyway, but still...
VertexSquared Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 My husband passed away almost a year ago, but I would like to honor how very well he treated me. He would make me tea every morning and bring it to bed. He would do ANYTHING for my teenage daughter when most previous guys just looked at her as a pain in the ass. He would accompany me on my rounds as property manager and would fix anything, move anything that needed it without resentment or expecting anything in return. Just trying to make MY life easier. He always told me how beautiful I was, especially first thing in the morning when I was a mess, or at the beach during spring break when there were tons of hot 20 yr old around ! He let my old dog sleep in our bed. He told me I was his " home" and wherever I was would always be home. He framed our wedding pics and marriage certificate and hung them up, as he was so proud. He was always there for me emotionally, I was always first on his list. He was a wonderful person, the best R I had ever had. I doubt I'll ever find another like him. Here's to you my sweet Michael, I miss you and think of you every day:love: Gah I am at work right now and my coworker just asked what I was so teary about, haha.
quankanne Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 He framed our wedding pics and marriage certificate and hung them up, as he was so proud. how romantically sweet :love: ain't nothing like a guy who is comfortable about letting the world see just how much you mean to him! I know you miss him ... hugs to you, MM
melodymatters Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Aw, thanks Vertex and Quank. I do love to remember him, and most people won't bring him up for fear of "upsettng me". Like I forgot ?!? And Vertex, I've beeen loving your thread, I'm sure in a bit of time you'll be posting here yourself !
Bejita463 Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Looking back on previous relationships, I cannot remember experiencing anything except words as far as demonstrating love goes. Not saying my previous partners were bad people, but I am not remembering having displays of love sent MY way at all. This thread just taught me something about myself, and I don't think I like it. Either my memory sucks, or my partner choices are pitiful.
aerogurl87 Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 My husband passed away almost a year ago, but I would like to honor how very well he treated me. He would make me tea every morning and bring it to bed. He would do ANYTHING for my teenage daughter when most previous guys just looked at her as a pain in the ass. He would accompany me on my rounds as property manager and would fix anything, move anything that needed it without resentment or expecting anything in return. Just trying to make MY life easier. He always told me how beautiful I was, especially first thing in the morning when I was a mess, or at the beach during spring break when there were tons of hot 20 yr old around ! He let my old dog sleep in our bed. He told me I was his " home" and wherever I was would always be home. He framed our wedding pics and marriage certificate and hung them up, as he was so proud. He was always there for me emotionally, I was always first on his list. He was a wonderful person, the best R I had ever had. I doubt I'll ever find another like him. Here's to you my sweet Michael, I miss you and think of you every day:love: Aww that is so sweet, I hope one day when I get married my husband will be that wonderful.
SilentVoice Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 My husband passed away almost a year ago, but I would like to honor how very well he treated me. He would make me tea every morning and bring it to bed. He would do ANYTHING for my teenage daughter when most previous guys just looked at her as a pain in the ass. He would accompany me on my rounds as property manager and would fix anything, move anything that needed it without resentment or expecting anything in return. Just trying to make MY life easier. He always told me how beautiful I was, especially first thing in the morning when I was a mess, or at the beach during spring break when there were tons of hot 20 yr old around ! He let my old dog sleep in our bed. He told me I was his " home" and wherever I was would always be home. He framed our wedding pics and marriage certificate and hung them up, as he was so proud. He was always there for me emotionally, I was always first on his list. He was a wonderful person, the best R I had ever had. I doubt I'll ever find another like him. Here's to you my sweet Michael, I miss you and think of you every day:love: Tear...This post alone makes me long for love..Sorry for your lost -- he sounds like a great man.
tigressA Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Aww that is so sweet, I hope one day when I get married my husband will be that wonderful. I do too. I teared up when reading MM's post. One of my exes would do things like dropping me off/picking me up right outside the door to a place if we were caught in a storm and I didn't want to get mussed, making me tea in the morning, helping me cook dinner, and taking care of me when I was sick.
donnamaybe Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Ahh, Mel. That was such a poignant description of your Michael's loving heart.
threebyfate Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Here's to you my sweet Michael, I miss you and think of you every day:love:((hugs)) 10 char.
donnamaybe Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 My sweet and I were walking around outside the house the other day, and he was telling me of his ideas. One was to make a second story above the living room so we could have a nice, big bedroom and master bath to ourselves, and the bedroom would have a private balcony where I could sit in the sun and enjoy my morning cup. Another is that we are going to build a recording studio and make music together. I love the visions he has for our future and the fact that he has the skills to make them come to fruition.
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