undisclosed Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 Do guys who say they never want to get married really mean never want to get married? And are there any of you who don't want marriage or even be committed to a girl without marriage? Have you guys fallen in love with girls, but because you know you don't want any of that, let them go? Sorry, I know it kinda a loaded question, but do you miss the girls you've said you loved and let go. And does it make sense or is it possible to say you love someone and want to be with them, but you don't see the point in being with someone long term if the end result is nothing and you know that you don't want to be committed or married????
Romance Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 I wouldn't date a guy long term who didn't want to get married someday. I look forward to getting married one day. It's important to me to share my everything with one person forever. Soooo, imo,not for me. i know some girls do not care, they don't want to be married either. Doesnt really show a lack of commitment unless they are a douchey cheater.
aerogurl87 Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 Most men mean it unless they're just telling a girl that as an excuse for not wanting to marry her. There are some eternal bachelors although I believe they're rare because most men realize when they get to a certain age it's hard to have a round of new warm bodies all the time unless you're mega rich, successful, or really good looking.
EasyHeart Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 There are very few men who NEVER want to get married. There are LOTS of men who have no intention of getting married for many years. When I was in my 20s and early 30s, I was focused on my career and made it clear to any woman I dated that I had no interest in marriage. That did not mean I NEVER wanted to get married, but I definitely did not want to get married to them, unless they planned to stick around for 10 years and hardly ever see me. If you are interested in marriage in the near future (ie, the next 2-3 years) and a guy tells you that he is not interested in marriage, listen to him. Move on and find someone who is at the same place in life that you are. You are not going to convince him to get married (and if you do, he will likely be miserable and you'll end up divorced). I dated many wonderful women during that period of my life who would have made awesome wives, but I was not ready for marriage and would have made a terrible husband. Luckily, I was smart enough to know it.
boogieboy Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 If someone tells you they dont want to be married, what they mean is they just dont want to be married to you. They will marry someone else. No one leaves someone that they WANT to be with and enjoy being with.
carhill Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 1. Believe their words. Whenever a person utters words which generally contradict positive relationship dynamics, they should be listened to carefuly. 2. Resist the impulse to see those words as a challenge. 3. Accept their actions as the reality of who they are. but do you miss the girls you've said you loved and let go. Yes, but that was due to the reverse dynamic. *She* didn't want that kind of relationship (a marital one). *I* did. Incompatible. The emotions still exist, but healthy cognition and psychology rule the day. I've found such realities can peacefully co-exist.
sally4sara Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 I entered into my current relationship thinking marriage was something I'd never do again. I entered into this relationship with someone who said they would never ever get married. Since I had no wants to get married, his stance on this didn't trouble me. Shy of 4 years, guess who got down on his knee in Central park with a ring in hand? I think marriage is something society presents to men as something that can catch them up, so they often say things with more conviction they they really feel. All it really indicates when they say it is they are not currently considering it.
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