SomewhatExperienced Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 I want to know what you women think about guys who have a lot of friends who happen to be girls? I've heard some say its a good sign about the guy's maturity, ability to have a relationship with a woman, not only have to think about sex when it comes to girls, etc... I've also see girls who are jealous about it. Thoughts?
phineas Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 EVERY guy I know who has lots of lady friends & I mean know's multiple woman every where we went was extreamly good looking & if he hadn't slept with them allready, they were waiting in line to sleep with him.
Els Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Depends on the guy and where his boundaries lie with them.
BG1985 Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 A guy who has lots of lady friends is either gay or great with women and either has or has the ability to have sex with all these "friends." This is a guy who usually has options.
EasyHeart Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Most of my close friends are women. I just relate better to women than I do to men, and I think it makes me a much better boyfriend. If you got me to be really honest (which in real life, I would probably never be), there is definite sexual chemistry with almost all of them. That's likely what drew up to each other originally, but for whatever reason a relationship never developed. These are the safest women for me to be around, because I would never, under any circumstances, consider sleeping with them. I've known many of them 10+ years and nothing has ever happened, and nothing ever will. The reason is boundaries. Their friendship is important to me, and I would never risk losing it. I would also never put them in the position of having to risk losing my friendship. So it depends on the man's level of maturity. If he is emotionally immature, he likes having a harem and half of the women are hoping to sleep with him. (I admit I may have done a little of this in my younger days. . . .) But if he is an emotionally mature man, it means that he genuinely likes women and is capable of thinking of women as more than just walking vaginas. I guess the answer is: "it depends". And he is either going to be the best boyfriend you can possibly imagine, or else he'll be a total dick.
breakupsucks Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Usually, a guy who's very comfortable having lots of lady friends grew up surrounded with lots of women in the family, relatives and friends.
eraser Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 I guess the answer is: "it depends". And he is either going to be the best boyfriend you can possibly imagine, or else he'll be a total dick. The truth, OP. The TRUTH.
Tony T Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 I just love to scroll down threads like this one and watch people generalize. When I was in my twenties and early thirties I had literally dozens of lady friends and it was not unusual for me to go out with five or six of them on a Friday or Saturday night...to hang out, have fun. I always loved female companionship. Some of them were around because I would help pay for stuff. Others liked me because I was fun. Many liked me because I didn't treat them as sex objects but as the humans they were, I didn't make sexual remarks toward them and they were comfortable with that. I always wondered why this was. My mother died when I was 13 and from there on out I knew how important females were and how fleeting life was. My mother's death was gravely traumatic with lasting and deep emotional consequences. Maybe I was looking for a little piece of my mother in each one of these ladies. Maybe I was looking for something I didn't get from my mother who died in each of them. Maybe I liked the quantity so if I was abandoned by one there would be many more around and the pain wouldn't be so bad. I don't know. I do know the OP will never, ever get a definitive answer to the question because every situation is different. Oversimplification here won't get you the accuracy you desire either.
sally4sara Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 Depends on the tone of those friendships and how sharing he is about it.
sally4sara Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 EVERY guy I know who has lots of lady friends & I mean know's multiple woman every where we went was extreamly good looking & if he hadn't slept with them allready, they were waiting in line to sleep with him. That is funny cause I got a guy friend who has tons of good looking female friends and the only one he has slept with was a LTR that ended amicably. He has been single for stretches and there was no patty caking. It use to be his cross to bear, but now that he has had a few decent relationships it doesn't frustrate him like it use to.
Engadget Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 I had quite a few female friends, probably got involved in some way with half of them. The other half, never did.
xRJ85x Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 Basically 3 possibilities: A) They're all unattractive and/or uninteresting lady friends. B) They're all lower quality friends, not close ones. C) He's gay.
BG1985 Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 Why is a guy considered immature due to the fact that he's sexually attracted to a bunch of women? I have female friends in which there are no mutual feelings, but I would still sleep with them. Does that make me immature?
Romance Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 to be honest, i could not date a guy with a lot of female friends. my boyfriend has none. i am very jealous. But whatever, I'm a bitch and I am aware.
xRJ85x Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 But whatever, I'm a bitch and I am aware. Awesome.
make me believe Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 I'm always suspicious when a guy is friends with mostly girls, or a girl is friends with mostly guys. I think in a lot of cases they are "friends" with the opposite sex because they like the attention & validation. Plus, it's rare for a guy to honestly be JUST FRIENDS with a woman.
tincanman99 Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 Couple of things, he is either gay, has his game totally on or is just comfortable with women friends. Personally I have a mix of both with slightly more women than men. Women friends are different than male friends. In my experience women friends provide emotional intimacy your male friends dont. Generally you can talk with women about things your male friends dont want to hear. For me about the only topic that is off limits is sex. I am uncomfortable discussing sex with them. In my opinion friendships with women improves your dating skills because you become very comfortable being around them and women in general find this appealing. You come to realize they are people too.
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