gypsy_nicky Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I made a previous thread asking whether or not I should pursue this woman who was multi dating- http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t220459/?highlight=multi+dating. It turns out, the reason she keeps her options open is because she got out of a long term relationship (10 years), where in those 10 years, here bf was also screwing her best friend. She was very much in love with him and was very much ready to settle down. She actually took him back after she'd found out. Then they broke it off for good. (part of me wonders, and there's a high probability-due to her elusiveness, that she may still be seeing her ex) I think this experience has scarred her, because even though its been 2 years sans break up, she still is carrying a lot of baggage. So, how painful/damaging is it on ones self when you find out your dearly beloved had been cheating on you? Will the baggage remain?
seibert253 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I made a previous thread asking whether or not I should pursue this woman who was multi dating- http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t220459/?highlight=multi+dating. It turns out, the reason she keeps her options open is because she got out of a long term relationship (10 years), where in those 10 years, here bf was also screwing her best friend. She was very much in love with him and was very much ready to settle down. She actually took him back after she'd found out. Then they broke it off for good. (part of me wonders, and there's a high probability-due to her elusiveness, that she may still be seeing her ex) I think this experience has scarred her, because even though its been 2 years sans break up, she still is carrying a lot of baggage. So, how painful/damaging is it on ones self when you find out your dearly beloved had been cheating on you? Will the baggage remain? I guess it depends on what your definition of "baggage" is. I'm 2 1/2 years out from my W's A, and I'm still not "over it". I don't think I ever will be. I've forgiven her, but I never will forget what she did to me and our family.
Author gypsy_nicky Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 do you find easy to get intimate or does it take longer now that you have experienced a cheater? The woman I'm seeing doesn't want to commit to anyone.
samsungxoxo Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 If she doesn't want to commit to anyone then the problem is her. Why would you want to date someone with luggages and negative concepts about relationships/men. It's up to the individual to become a stronger person and learned what not to do or cover themselves in their shells forever.
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