moodoo Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I seriously can't explain this at all, me and this girl have gone out 3-4 times this week, we've been talking for 2-3 weeks. She is so flirty with me and last night was all over me, I have an iphone vid of us together and its nuts, my friends were with us thought we were hooking up for sure. I live in another city and she told me, when I move home in a month we'll see what happens but she told me she liked me alot and my personality was perfect for her. Anyways she slept in my bed but wouldn't let me kiss her bc she wanted our first kiss to be perfect.....WTF why is she all over me, introduced me to her friends, slept with me but won't let me touch her Im soooo lost. Is it possible shes scared bc she knows ive hooked up with lots of girls in the past? somebody please help me!!!
sugarmomma Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 She knows you're just looking for a "hook up". Maybe she's looking for more than just to get screwed.
carhill Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 (edited) The phrase C*ck-tease comes to mind.... Since you've 'hooked-up' with lots of girls in the past, perhaps finding a more compatible one would be healthier. As one long-time female friend told me, some women (she was one) use sex (or sexual behaviors) to get men to like them. It's an elemental pragmatism women possess, whether they act on it or not. In light of your past threads on this girl, I'd suggest moving on... Edited February 18, 2010 by carhill
Twenty-ten Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 She knows you're just looking for a "hook up". Maybe she's looking for more than just to get screwed. This ^ exactly what she said.
Author moodoo Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 See the thing is, I think she has the wrong impression of me. I won't lie I have hooked up with lots of women in my 27 years, but I became a millionaire in my early 20's and yes I had nice cars and I did enjoy the sleazy girl thing, but Im ready to have a good girlfriend now and she is the model I've always dreamed of, in law school and ready to have a career of her own. I just feel like from what she knows about me via my friends and facebook a few months back she may think by sleeping with me that she'll just be another notch on my belt.....how can I assure her that I am honestly not a player anymore and want a good girl. I mean she's giving me all the signals, watch I'll try to post the vid from my friends cameraphone
sugarmomma Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 how can I assure her that I am honestly not a player anymore and want a good girl. I mean she's giving me all the signals, watch I'll try to post the vid from my friends cameraphone Slow down. Get to know her as a person before you get in her pants. You might find that she has some annoying dealbreaking habits and you may not even like her. If you really like her then you'll take into consideration her many other body parts besides her vagina, for ex. her mind, heart and spirit. Don't screw this up by screwing this up.
Twenty-ten Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 By taking the time to get to know her and not push the sexual thing. Take her out and enjoy your time with her, eventually lead up to your first kiss then move on in gradual steps to more. You need to show her that you want more than just sex and they only way you can do that is by not pushing for sex. Don't post the video that's not right.
Lindarose84 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 It may not be right, but I'd like to watch it Moodoo, she doesn't want to seal the deal so to speak out of fear that she will be just another hook up to you. Be patient. This is a good sign.
Author moodoo Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 linda here is the video a friend of mine took while we were all drunk getting a bite to eat at 3 am last night, look at her body language is she clearly not all over me, I mean WTF haha so many dates and just nothing http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vQJ4ydxgs1s
Lindarose84 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 linda here is the video a friend of mine took while we were all drunk getting a bite to eat at 3 am last night, look at her body language is she clearly not all over me, I mean WTF haha so many dates and just nothing http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vQJ4ydxgs1s Ok so she seems completely trashed in the video. So that may have contributed to her being so touchy feely. But personally, I tend to do that only with guys I'm secretly (or not so secretly) very attracted to. She seemed very into you with the whole brushing her head against yours and the hand holding. But without knowing her personally, I couldn't really say if she's just normally that hands on with her friends or if she saves that for guys she likes. So I'd probably be as perplexed as you if after all that, she wouldn't even let you kiss her. She might be a bit of a tease and just enjoys the attention (you did mention she was a model or something in the video). Best thing to do is put your cards on the table and see what she says. Because in all honesty, if I was like that all over a guy, drunk or not drunk, if I were at the very least attracted to him, he would've gotten a kiss at the end of the night (especially if I were drunk).
Awesome Username Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Moodoo, please be patient with this girl. Like the other posters have mentioned, she wants to put some time in between you two meeting, and "hooking up." The fact that you have hooked up with tons of women makes it even more apparent. Have some patience with her. Not every women who is impressed with you is going to immediately get physical.
Author moodoo Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 Thanks linda I did put my cards on the table when I told her I liked her and it was different from just wanting to sleep with her and her response was, " I like you, your personality is just what I want but you dont live here now, when you move here in a month we can figure things out".....Thing is, Ive known her for 6 months now, but we've only been talking for a few weeks like flirting/texting but I mean why go on a ton of dates with me, including one with me,her and her best friend.....then sleep in my bed and not even kiss me....I mean is kissing that big a deal bc I never knew it to be
Awesome Username Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Thanks linda I did put my cards on the table when I told her I liked her and it was different from just wanting to sleep with her and her response was, " I like you, your personality is just what I want but you dont live here now, when you move here in a month we can figure things out".....Thing is, Ive known her for 6 months now, but we've only been talking for a few weeks like flirting/texting but I mean why go on a ton of dates with me, including one with me,her and her best friend.....then sleep in my bed and not even kiss me....I mean is kissing that big a deal bc I never knew it to be Kissing is a big deal to some people. She might feel like she would be even closer to you if she did, which might be detrimental to her if you decide NOT to move down there. If you don't even live by her yet, that's even more understandable. I would do the same thing in her shoes.
Lindarose84 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Thanks linda I did put my cards on the table when I told her I liked her and it was different from just wanting to sleep with her and her response was, " I like you, your personality is just what I want but you dont live here now, when you move here in a month we can figure things out".....Thing is, Ive known her for 6 months now, but we've only been talking for a few weeks like flirting/texting but I mean why go on a ton of dates with me, including one with me,her and her best friend.....then sleep in my bed and not even kiss me....I mean is kissing that big a deal bc I never knew it to be hmmm, it sounds like she is dating other people to be completely honest and that, for now, she sees you purely as a friend. The fact that she mentioned your distance as a deterrent tells me that she really hasn't put much stock into considering you as someone more than just a friend. Which is why she mentioned figuring things out later. If I liked a guy and he lived in another city, and we've been in contact for 6 months, I wouldn't need to figure things out later- I'd already know. That coupled with the no kiss thing reeks of fact that you've been friend-zoned. I just can't imagine sharing a bed with someone I've been talking to for 6 months and to whom I'm attracted and not at least give the guy a kiss or a peck or something! Knowing that and thinking back to the video, i think she was just being friendly drunk.
Author moodoo Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 (edited) I really dont think im friend zoned bc she was taking my and walking me all through the club last night, then you saw the video she was all flirty and in my face, nobody puts their face right their in your face basically about to kiss you as friends. I mentioned in another thread, she openly told me she was talking to another guy a few weeks earlier but he bailed on her during a trip to LA and she texted me at 5 in the morning to come stay at my place but i was asleep of course, and for the past week shes basically been with me everynight so its not like she's been with him. It oculd possibly be she got out of a 4 year relationship where she lived with her bf just 2 months ago and shes not ready but she never mentioned it to me Edited February 18, 2010 by moodoo
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