mortensorchid Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Recently as I have been trying again with the online world, I have met a few people here and there who have requested to add me as a friend on Facebook. I agreed to it, and now wish I hadn't. All day my friends and I banter about our updates and pictures and whatnot. I think the new person in your life might feel left out of the situation if they see this. And then if you make them a Limited Profile, they will equally feel as if they are not so important as others are. Then there's always that information you may or may not have wanted them to know but that they somehow gather from your profile or photographs. Some of the guys I have made connections with have asked to become Facebook friends, and once they see some of their limitations or everything (depending on the person), they suddenly say they are not interested anymore. Maybe that would have happened anyway, but that has been my experience as of recently. What do others think?
boogieboy Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I dont add women Im dating to facebook. Not anymore. Never ever ever.
Twenty-ten Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Terrible idea. Keep it separate, keep it drama free.
Cinderella7 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I totally agree; I wouldn't add anyone I was dating on FB until we've been official for awhile. Not sure why, just the idea makes me a bit uncomfortable.
BG1985 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I made it easier and just got off of Facebook altogether.
meerkat stew Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 There are a couple I wish I had included on FB, but more (including most recent ex) that I wish I hadn't.
bean1 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I have Facebook and so does my common-law partner. We have lived together for years, have children together, and are still not "friends" on Facebook. I know he burps, farts, gets bored, gets excited for a new video game, I do not need status updates to remind me I see him daily and talk/text 10x per day. It's enough
greatgirlfriend Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 The guy I'm currently seeing is one of my Facebook friends. In fact that's how I found him again. But our situation is different since we knew each other for years.
Satisfaction Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I made it easier and just got off of Facebook altogether. Clever man. What to do if you give them an email address and a fake name not related to your email address and they still find you and add you anyway? Despite the fact you have made it impossible for people to add you or message you or find you?
SOLACEMENT Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I rarely date people I go/went to school with...so that would be the only way ..if we are already friends... but besides that I would not accept anyone I am dating as a friend Not so much that I don't want them to see my profile but I think these social networking sites cause way to much conflict...I barely use my facebook...myspace is so two years ago and twitter is a waste of RAM And I have no interest in these "INSERT NAME HERE is now in a relationship with INSERT NAME HERE" no thanks
BG1985 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Facebook causes insecurities to arise unnecessarily.
RobM Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 So far I've stayed away from facebook, I have my real life friends and my online friends and never the two groups shall meet or cross.
yeex Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I always tell them up front, that i want to get to know them in person for a while before adding them to my facebook friends. I do not want to add them until we are an established couple and have been dating for at least 6 months. It just kind of makes it worse if things don't work out and you have to delete them from your friends list and/or block them or they have to do that to you. I've been there.
BG1985 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Aww, is it really that bad when you delete someone or get deleted from someone's friend list on Facebook? Don't you delete exes' phone numbers?
CaliGuy Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I personally don't care. I'll add them and if they don't like what they see/hear they can get bent It's my life (and yeah, I'm not into updating my status every 5 seconds either soooo....) And if someone adds/deletes me it doesn't matter. My core friends are on FB and that's really what I use it for. Not for a popularity contest.
Rulebreaker Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I think there is something to be said for mystery, especially at first. I think it's difficult to understand someone's facebook persona before really knowing who they are. I'd rather not add prospective dates to FB but in a community setting it could be thought of as weird if I don't, so I just severely limit my activity on facebook in general.
paddington bear Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I only add real friends and family and friends of friends who are people I know, and like, but aren't great buddies with. I personally wouldn't add a new squeeze. Firstly because if it ends you then have to decide if you remove him or her from your contacts, secondly if you don't, it leads to stalker-like behaviour sometimes (in you and them either during your courtship or if it ends badly). I just say 'sorry I only have long-term friends and family on facebook' - likewise I'd never add colleagues on facebook either.
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